o brother, here we go...

[Bo]

so tyson, my guy's horrible best friend did something today that really caught me off guard. I left the house to go pick up my mother and there on my car is an envelope in a ziplock bag that said 'please give to ----'. It was a typed letter from him apoligizing about how he has wronged me and how he was very sorry and hoped that it wasn't a reflection of his mormon religion...and then the rest was him ranting about how he is going to live how jesus wants to him to live. yada yada

What the hell am i supposed to make of this?

I think it's bull, i think he is a shitty a-hole still. Am i being harsh?

[Illusional]

i don't even know what your problem is and i think that it's fake.

raverboy

[Bo]

you think what is fake?

[Bo]

And my question is what am i suppose to do, there's always a part of me that feels bad for someone even if they've treated me like shit. But i'm almost positive i hate him at this point. I think the letter was bs, and it's his attempt at trying to change my view of him...

What would you all do?

For those who don't know about him.

we've gotten into some pretty heated arguments because he's extremely manipulative, manipulated my relationship. Would pressure my guy w/ money issues, he's very fake and even though he won't admit it. A lot of ppl including myself think he is gay, he's been seen holding hands with another guy...I'm almost positive he was jealous of my relationship and that's why he was always trying to ruin it. He has tried to grope me before, and is just a DIGUSTING PERSON to be frank..

[Illusional]

so this is only your bf's "friend"... ah f*ck him then.

besides, he's only apologizing to you because he feels bad... he'll mess up again sooner or later.

raverboy

[Bo]

it's his bestfriend. He has an extremely negative influence on everything that he has to do with, i am so sick and tired of him. Maybe i should hire a hitman. jk. No matter what he says or does, i think he is just full of rubbish and i don't understand why he did that. And i could really care less if he thinks jesus is going to save his sorry pothead ass.

[Illusional]

why don't you tell this to your bf?? he should be the one that deals with this guy, not you.

raverboy

[Bo]

why don't you tell this to your bf?? he should be the one that deals with this guy, not you.

raverboy

We are working things out right now. I have actaully expressed all my concerns w/ him, we just argue about it hence creating more problems. And it pisses me off more that Tyson is always getting in the way of everything and my guy always stands up for his buddies. He is just that type of person who always defends his Friends. He doesn't see Tyson as a negative influence but it's obvious to everyone else not just me. I think he is trying to convert my guy, that scares the shit out of me. Especially since i'm not religious at all, i really don't think my guy could get into the whole religion worship scenario either but it freaks me out. Btw: ppl have suggested giving him an ultimatum, but i don't do that, it's unfair.

illusional: as a guy what would you do if your girl had problems with your bestfriend?

[Illusional]

i would deal with it, but i'm not your bf. i would try my best to keep you two separated because you two bump heads.

however, on your part, i think that you shouldn't give your bf a choice. that will only make you look like the bad guy. instead, give me more reasons why he should spend more time with you rather than his friends.

as for the friend, it sounds like they are pretty close. the best thing probably would be to avoid him and thus your fights would lessen. however, i think that your bf should have the balls to decide how he wants to live his live, rather than by someone else's influences.

raverboy

[tooxshort]

If everyone else sees Tyson as a bad influence, why don't you just break it to him that way? Bust him out in front of other friends, so maybe he'll realize what an idiot he's being. If not, then I guess he'll just find out the hard way.

As for your situation, why even let that guy off the hook just for typing out an apology? If he's a repeat offender, f*ck him. It's not a reflection of his religion, it's a reflection of himself.

Anywho, tell your bf that you don't want to share the same oxygen as Tyson and be firm about it. No one should ever have to hang with someone they despise ...

[Gigabitch]

I thought your bf wasn't hanging out with Tyson any more.

Anyway, I think you should forgive him and still avoid him like the plague.

[Bo]

I thought your bf wasn't hanging out with Tyson any more.

Anyway, I think you should forgive him and still avoid him like the plague.

well he started to hang out w/ tyson, and then that's when we started fighting again and things blew up between us. It is his bestfriend after all, but i don't know how to make him realize what a moron Tyson is...

And i agree, i actually don't necessarily forgive him, since i know his ego is still as big as ever. I'm definitely still going to avoid him by all means. Just cuz he types me an apology does not change the fact that he's a conniving manipulative ass.

[Illusional]

forgiveness is just another way of putting off the problem and giving it time to resurface later.

raverboy

[lightning88]

so this is only your bf's "friend"... ah f*ck him then.

besides, he's only apologizing to you because he feels bad... he'll mess up again sooner or later.

raverboy

I think hes right^

[Bo]

Yeah well i found out he's typed up apologies for other ppl too. (hint:obviously he's ****ed with a lot of ppl). One of his ex friends and i just laughed about how ridiculous his letters were and how he's becoming some jesus freak now...Tyson is just so full of drama. i'd ship him off to an empty island