Money in relationship

[Lite]

but seriously, guys have to go through their whole life with those expectations, no matter of their financial status. my friend lost his job recently, and the girl that he is seeing now still expects him to pay.

At that point I'd be kicking the woman to the curb. Yes, some women are like that, and some of us men will pay through the nose for attention.

This sounds pretty cliche, but as a man... When it comes to women, it is far easier to tolerate some of their bullshit behaviors and expectations as long as one is getting laid regularly. It's pretty much their only outlet for stress in the relationship, and when that stops, then the stress just isn't worth it.

Why a man wouldn't stop such things sooner is difficult to explain. We're expected to be tolerant and stoic to a fault.

[Indignant]

At that point I'd be kicking the woman to the curb. Yes, some women are like that, and some of us men will pay through the nose for attention.

This sounds pretty cliche, but as a man... When it comes to women, it is far easier to tolerate some of their bullshit behaviors and expectations as long as one is getting laid regularly. It's pretty much their only outlet for stress in the relationship, and when that stops, then the stress just isn't worth it.

Why a man wouldn't stop such things sooner is difficult to explain. We're expected to be tolerant and stoic to a fault.

yeah, i am telling him to have a talk with her and to try and explain his situation, but inside i am yelling - kick the bitch to the curve! but i can't allow myself to be that selfish and be the one blamed for ruining their relationship.

[ecojeanne]

i don't understand why a person would go anywhere or even go on a simple date if they had just lost their job.

it doesn't sound like either of them are very sensible or reasonable really

[IndiReloaded]

Women only get paid less tho, Eco b/c they don't demand their worth.

Anyway, don't you read the news? Lilly Ledbetter Act?

[url]http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Lilly_Ledbetter_Fair_Pay_Act[/url]

[ecojeanne]

indi i wasn't referring to whether men get paid more in the same position. i was merely saying that the men will likely have a higher paying job, coz as you rightly said women tend to be martyrs and don't put themselves forward enough (but there are other reasons too not worth discussing on this thread). thats relevant i think to how dating and fair payment for the date goes along with all my other points

[Indignant]

i don't understand why a person would go anywhere or even go on a simple date if they had just lost their job.

it doesn't sound like either of them are very sensible or reasonable really

they started dating before all this happened, and she is the kind of girl who likes to party, never stays home and likes to be pampered. the whole going out and wasting money part is not being initiated by him.

[Only-virgins]

it's tough being a guy. you are always expected to cash out for everything when it comes to courting women.

Bah, It is just stupid money. I find it more challenging to deal with women period.

[Indignant]

Bah, It is just stupid money. I find it more challenging to deal with women period.

you know what? me too.

[UKboy]

i don't understand why a person would go anywhere or even go on a simple date if they had just lost their job.

it doesn't sound like either of them are very sensible or reasonable really

Misplaced piorities,that's what it is.

[Lite]

i don't understand why a person would go anywhere or even go on a simple date if they had just lost their job.

it doesn't sound like either of them are very sensible or reasonable really

Life doesn't stop just because you're unemployed. Most people will not miss their rent by $20-40 (IE: Go for a walk, buy some hotdogs or kebabs, maybe a few flowers, walk more.)

[Lite]

indi i wasn't referring to whether men get paid more in the same position. i was merely saying that the men will likely have a higher paying job, coz as you rightly said women tend to be martyrs and don't put themselves forward enough (but there are other reasons too not worth discussing on this thread). thats relevant i think to how dating and fair payment for the date goes along with all my other points

It isn't just that. In the business world they are generally viewed as a liability. They're typically the ones who will go on maternity leave, they're the ones who typically stay home when the child is sick...

I'm not saying it is fair, just that it is how they are viewed, and therefore treated and paid. Women average what? 30% less than men in the same job?

[ecojeanne]

i know, it's a tough world for women

[IndiReloaded]

It isn't just that. In the business world they are generally viewed as a liability. They're typically the ones who will go on maternity leave, they're the ones who typically stay home when the child is sick...

I'm not saying it is fair, just that it is how they are viewed, and therefore treated and paid. Women average what? 30% less than men in the same job?

Equal pay for equal work, tho Lite. That's different from promotion and placement. I agree with your comment from that standpoint.

[Lite]

Equal pay for equal work, tho Lite. That's different from promotion and placement. I agree with your comment from that standpoint.

I wasn't defending it, merely stating some reasons why it happens. Personally as a man who isn't going to have children I end up doing even more work than my co-workers with children. I'm the one who works late nights because I don't have kids to go home to. It's slightly better now that I'm married, but prior to that it's, "Oh you're single, it's not like you have anyone at home waiting for you."

Kind of like smokers. I wish I could take an hour's worth of extra breaks each day and not get written up for it.

[Indignant]

I wasn't defending it, merely stating some reasons why it happens. Personally as a man who isn't going to have children I end up doing even more work than my co-workers with children. I'm the one who works late nights because I don't have kids to go home to. It's slightly better now that I'm married, but prior to that it's, "Oh you're single, it's not like you have anyone at home waiting for you."

Kind of like smokers. I wish I could take an hour's worth of extra breaks each day and not get written up for it.

i have to agree with that, most people with kids at my work abuse those privileges and single people have to work twice as much for the same money. and smokers do go out every hour on a break, i smoke as well but only after work.