How do you feel towards your long-term partner?

[and_for_what]

To women who have been with the same man for at least several years - could you try to put into words how you regard and feel about your partner? And how that feeling has changed and evolved over time, as well as how satisfied you are with what you feel towards him, and why?

many thanks

[Lite]

Uhm, all people and relationship dynamics are unique. Why would you want to pattern yourself off of someone else?

[and_for_what]

Uhm, all people and relationship dynamics are unique. Why would you want to pattern yourself off of someone else?

Was that meant for another thread?
If not, then I'm not sure what you're saying. I meant nothing about copying anyone else, I just asked the question.

[IndiReloaded]

Fondness, most days. Some times wanting to bury him head first in the back yard. Other things too depending on the moment.

Does this help tho?

[and_for_what]

Fondness, most days. Some times wanting to bury him head first in the back yard. Other things too depending on the moment.

Does this help tho?

Yea to some extent.

I'm just trying to hear what other women have to say about it. Obviously it's related to what my girlfriend said she felt, and didn't feel, towards me. Since she's never been in another relationship, and of course nor have I, we didn't really know whether what we felt was all there was that one could feel, if you know what I mean. I was very happy with what I felt towards her, but I think she had kind of unrealistic expectations in a way.

Maybe this should be in a neutral sub-forum and anyone could answer, if they stated their gender?


thanks a lot

[IndiReloaded]

A lot of young ppl over romanticize their relationships. Its unrealistic to expect the super-intense infatuation feelings to last. But its also unrealistic to expect 'firsts' to understand this. It takes most ppl several goes at relationships (or marriages!) to understand the 'same-shit, different person' idea behind the end of the honeymoon stage.

[misombra]

sometimes it's heaven. sometimes it's hell.

[Lite]

To quote Avenue Q. The more you love someone, the more you want to kill them!

[IndiReloaded]

Fondness, most days. Some times wanting to bury him head first in the back yard. Other things too depending on the moment.

Does this help tho?

sometimes it's heaven. sometimes it's hell.

To quote Avenue Q. The more you love someone, the more you want to kill them!

See? The flux is normal.

Just try to get 'in synch' with each other. Its those out of synch periods (one loves, the other hates) where things can get pretty miserable for everyone, lol.

[ilovepanties]

I agree with most of the post so far. Some days can be just so awesome, while other days, i just want to strangle him. I do feel love for him all the time though, or else I would not still be with him. I feel that he needs to keep giving me the attention that I deserve. It's sometimes too easy for him to get caught up in what he's doing so that he almost forgets I even exist. But in the end, communication really is a key. It's good to talk about how you feel about each other at points in a relationship that way things can be "fixed," do things differently, etc....

[and_for_what]

I do feel love for him all the time though, or else I would not still be with him.

What does that comprise? Is it an entirely abstract feeling that you just happen to have, and that you go along with? Or can you sort of break it down into 'real' things?

[ilovepanties]

What does that comprise? Is it an entirely abstract feeling that you just happen to have, and that you go along with? Or can you sort of break it down into 'real' things?

I love him for who he is and what he does; even though he does do some things that gets on my nerves. I know he loves me back as well. It's different for every person and every relationship. It's one of those things that's hard to explain, but you know its there.

[vashti]

I agree with most of the post so far. Some days can be just so awesome, while other days, i just want to strangle him. I do feel love for him all the time though, or else I would not still be with him. I feel that he needs to keep giving me the attention that I deserve. It's sometimes too easy for him to get caught up in what he's doing so that he almost forgets I even exist. But in the end, communication really is a key. It's good to talk about how you feel about each other at points in a relationship that way things can be "fixed," do things differently, etc....

Aren't you a college kid? How long-term of a relationship do you have?

[ilovepanties]

Aren't you a college kid? How long-term of a relationship do you have?

I have been with my boyfriend for 5 years

[lesa]

If this is their first partner then prepare to **** it up with all sorts of unnecessary emotions and unrealistic expectations.