why buy your ex a gift?

[jenbenn]

So my ex boyfriend bought me a 140 dollar digital camera for Christmas! The last Christmas we were together we spent 50 dollars on me and to top it all off he is cheap! On top of all of this he is buying me a birthday gift which is a pair of 60 dollar running short.

What is going on?

[vashti]

I wonder what motivates you to accept these gifts. Do you want to encourage him?

[starbuck]

He wants you back. Duh!

[jenbenn]

I wonder what motivates you to accept these gifts. Do you want to encourage him?

It is hard to reject them when he is in Afghanistan for the next 3 months. What am I suppose to say, thank you but no thanks let me hold on to them until you get back. Plus what if I do reject them, is his head really going to be on the task at hand?

[boobaa]

Who would want a 140 dollar camera? I'd call it the worst gift ever.

[damn2008]

Hold onto it and return it when he gets back.

He's going overseas so he is reaching out to you with the glimmer of hope that you two might reconcile in some way (as a couple, friends, etc.). If you don't want to, I suggest you don't lead him on with false hope...it'll make things bad for the both of you to dwell on those old feelings.

[Bo]

if u live in the us most things that are purchased can't be returned after a month or so. so she can't have him return it.

[LadieNisha4u2nv]

60 bucks for shorts? They must wash and dry themselves I hope.

[vashti]

if u live in the us most things that are purchased can't be returned after a month or so. so she can't have him return it.

Whether or not the store will take them back, she can return them to him, and if she isn't interested in him romantically, that is exactly what she should do.

[jenbenn]

60 bucks for shorts? They must wash and dry themselves I hope.

haha they don't but I like them but would never buy them for myself. They just look really good and are comfortable when I run since I am training for a marathon it helps.

I don't know what I want from him right now so I am more confused then anything. I love him still but he has hurt me way to many times and I know I should move on. With gestures like this is makes it hard to move on, because he always knows what to get me, or say and do because he knows me so well. I just don't know why he is doing it for when he told me we have to move on, so it makes it hard. I am dating but I always have in the back of my head; what does he want when he comes home. I really don't think that it is fair for him to do this to me really.

[Cbrider]

60 bucks for shorts? They must wash and dry themselves I hope.

You lose weight by putting them on, I saw them on TV!

[jenbenn]

You lose weight by putting them on, I saw them on TV!

haha loosing weight is the last thing on my mind. Running 42.2 K in under 4 hours is something I hope they help with..haha

[Cbrider]

haha loosing weight is the last thing on my mind. Running 42.2 K in under 4 hours is something I hope they help with..haha

They also double as a tent in times of economic crisis.

[LadieNisha4u2nv]

They also double as a tent in times of economic crisis.

You lose weight by putting them on, I saw them on TV!

Sounds awesome! I'm getting a pair today!!

....They still better wash and dry themselves though.

[IndiReloaded]

I really don't think that it is fair for him to do this to me really.

It could be seen as manipulative, I guess. Like he's trying to keep his bid active without any more commitment. But I think you are best off to just thank him politely, say you will discuss the gift when he gets back and wish him well. Think no more of it for now.