so here's the question

[Bo]

do u all think it's possible to be friends after being lovers?? I'm usually a believer that if it wasn't a long-term ordeal, than being friends isn't all that hard and it usually works out fine. But when it was a long-term relationship...being friends and remaining that way doesn't work...
feedback?

[carl1222]

Bo, friendship is fine, but ...

It's all about avoiding one of the absolute worst things emotionally ... a one-sided romantic attraction ... that can f**k someone up for years!

So in answer to your question: friends is fine as long as you both are friends and neither wants more.

I'm not sure it is directly related to your time together although I agree that after a long-term romantic relationship, going into the "friends" mode is more difficult.

Carl.

[Bo]

nope has nothing to do with me, just wanted to get feedback about it since i've seen a lot of mixed opinions on here

and i agree that one-sided romances are messed up.

[Lite]

It's possible for *some* people. Not all, not most, and not really *many*. There's a large portion of the populace that once they cross a line, such as being intimate, it's difficult to completely put that back into the bottle and never cross that line (or come close to crossing it) again.

It can also add a lot of stress to a new relationship if the new person isn't 100% secure. (Which is extremely common with many many many many people as we all know.)

[Bo]

well said lite