Having Trouble Meeting Guys

[Cbrider]

I would be blown away if a girl asked me out.

I can't even fathom it happening.....thats a cloud 9 thought.

[nbfsb]

you're pretty. do u have an asian descent?

[Skyfish]

Sorry for the late reply, guys. Been really busy at work this week...

For those of you who have asked: I have filipina heritage, so yes, I definitely have some Asian blood in me.

Beautiful pics...I'm a guy so I can't totally empathize with girl issues but here is what I think:

1) These days I guess it is ok to drop hints on a guy though not being too too aggressive. I'm still a bit conservative so maybe others would disagree with me. Don't try to completely transform your personality though to meet guys. The true soulmate will love you for the beauty of what you are.

How do I know if it's appropriate to walk up to someone and talk? Are there signs to watch out for if someone is interested?

2) What settings are you looking for guys at? I personally do not recommend clubs or bars. Just my experience and the quality varies a lot.

Honestly, most of the guys I meet are from work or school (which I've graduated from in 2007). The last guy I was with, I met at party. So I'm kind of limited at the moment. I'm not much of a party girl. I like smaller gatherings, which is part of the problem.

Do you have hobbies or interests? I would suggest joining local clubs or groups with a similar interest or hobby to meet people. Be it language, crafts, travelling, or whatever.

I paint, sculpt, cook, make jewelry, read, and write. I love TV and movies (who doesn't?). My favorite shows are Mad Men, Battlestar Galactica, House, and Dexter. Love Bill Maher. As for movies: The Dark Knight, Casino, Gladiator, The Fountain, Death Proof, Aliens, Amelie... Huh. We need more good horror movies. Whatever happened to them?

I like anime, but I've been away from it for years. Very solitary activities, I know. I'm seriously thinking about fencing classes. I thought about belly dancing classes too (it's certainly cheaper!), but I want to learn to become more confident. Plus I love swords. People need to bring swords back. Swords with motorcycles. There should be post-modern knights consisting of women in tight leather jackets. It'll be FANTASTIC.

Are you college educated? I am not saying be elitist but since people often marry people of similar educational backgrounds, I would look up all the local colleges like UCLA, USC, etc. and see when they have alumni or young alumni events in town. That's a way of meeting people and providing a filter of sort if educational attainment is important to you in a man.

I graduated from USC. Everyone I've dated was from that college (they were graduate students while I was undergrad). The last guy was a coincidence. He happened to go to USC for grad school in the 90s. He studied the same major too. I was with him the longest. Yes... I miss him a lot. I keep in touch with him, and it's a mixed bag. It's nice to be in contact, but it sucks knowing it's not going anywhere. Sometimes I think he's humoring me, and I don't know if I'm actually annoying him or not.

I know this may sound real old-fashioned to some people but...ask an adult to hook you up. This DOES NOT have to be your parents. Make sure they know you don't want to be obligated to anything. Maybe an aunt/uncle or a mentor or a professor you liked that you trust. They may know someone. I don't like forced pairings but I think a matchmaker with your best interests at heart can be more helpful than most people think.

As far as family is concerned: definitely not. I deeply love my family, but they're as conservative as they come. By conservative, I mean they said I was too young to date when I was 15. They want me to stay a virgin until I get married, and if I don't get married, to stay a virgin forever.

A friend tried to set me up. Didn't work out. I'm relieved because we learned he slept around a lot and cheated on his girlfriend.

[1averagejoe]

You need to do something that involves getting out and meeting different people. Take up a sport, something non-competitive or really serious

Or try cycling...

Great way to get those legs and buns looking sexy and it's primarily a male dominated sport. There's TONS of guys in the LA area. All you would have to do is go out to the beach and ride along the strand everyday and I'm sure in time you'll have a few guys approach you.

Be sure to wear bike shorts.

[Skyfish]

I actually really like biking! Too bad my bike got stolen (typical, right?). The thief left the wheel behind. My fault. Locked it up the wrong way. I should go down to the thrift district and buy a new one. With any luck, I'll probably be reunited with my old bike!

Be sure to wear bike shorts.

I'm 4'9." Don't have much leg. It's the one thing I envy other girls for. Wish I was taller! Kissing guys is hard. They have to bend way over and I have to go on my tippy-toes for a kiss.

Thanks for the suggestion!

[1averagejoe]

Being short isn't a bad thing. I love shorter women, my ex was 5'1". I actually liked bending over and having her go on her tippy toes, it was cute.

Plus, you don't need long legs to cycle. Being shorter and lighter is actually an advantage, you can get into a more aerodynamic position and you've got less weight to carry, which is a good thing for climbing.