Usually if a girl tells me she just wants to be friends, I'd take that as meaning she just isn't attracted to me. But in this case, I'm pretty confused by it.
I got to know this girl slowly over my first year of university, because she was a flatmate of one of my friends from back home. I had a girlfriend for most of the first year, and didn't really expect anything to come about with this girl, but after I broke up with my girlfriend I noticed that she was starting to flirt with me a lot, (and she even tried to kiss me once whilst I was still going out with my girlfriend and she was really drunk) and I started talking to her a lot more when I was visiting my other friend; finally on the last night before I went back home we hooked up, had sex, and I even took her for a walk down this beautiful canal that not many people know about in the early hours of the morning as the sun came up. It was great, possibly as romantic as one night stands can get.
Next semester starts, and she comes to my house warming party and we spend much of the time chatting and she stays over and we have (really good!) sex. Our mutual friend even told me that she thought it was the best sex she'd had. But then, the other night, I went for a drink with her and her flatmates and came back to their flat. Her flatmates went to bed and it was just us, and we were getting on really well, so I try to kiss her...but then to my surprise she says no, because we could be really good friends and she doesn't want to ruin it. We still share a bed and cuddle though.
So...I'm pretty confused. We get on well enough for her to want to be friends, she's definately attracted to me sexually, and she was the first to show interest. So why put the brakes on like that? Doesn't make a lot of sense to me...
I've asked her flatmate about this, and she says that this girl thinks that it wouldn't work, and also that she usually goes out with "assholes" which I guess means trendy image-conscious pseudo-"alternative" superficial guys. She's told me in bed that I'm "a bit different," which I guess means I'm different to those guys. Is it just the case that she likes me, but feels like trendy guys are the only viable choice of a partner for her? (not that I don't dress well, take care of my appearance etc, but I think I come across as a bit kooky sometimes-which, ironically, is probably also what attracted her to me in the first place)