Did I Overreact Or Was I Justified?

[Zehx]

Considering their relationship was ended by external circumstances (distance) instead of being severed by a lack of attraction, there is definitley some old feelings around. There is no way that when she talks to him, and they remonance about old times that she isnt imagining "What if" im sorry but this is not okay, not in any relationship aimed toward success

[misombra]

so i imagine your relationship is "successful?" whatever that means.

[shh!]

There is no way that when she talks to him, and they remonance about old times that she isnt imagining "What if"

If she regrets the break up, she is thinking this anyway, whether or not he calls. If this is a problem for you, then you should probably only date girls that have never had a previous relationship.

Can you honestly say that you would not be bothered by your mate being in constant contact with an ex? On top of that, not being upfront about it? Come on... be honest here.

Yes. I would not be bothered. Then again, I am a grown-up, and I know my guy isn't going anywhere.

Don't you wish everyone made good enough decisions about relationships that they could have this degree of certainty, too? Not everyone is insecure.

[Zehx]

so i imagine your relationship is "successful?" whatever that means.

Not even remotely...

[NOLA CBD]

Oh you're a grown up. Well of course you have nothing to worry about. Should have let us know that sooner. Sheesh

[JustMeHere]

I don't think you over-reacted at all. How would SHE feel if it were YOU talking to one of YOUR exes. I don't think she' be very comfortable with that.
I also don't think it's right how she avoided answering you on who the call was from initially. She should have been forthright with you, because now she just made it look like she was trying to hide it. It makes me wonder what phone calls she gets from him that she hasn't told you about.
Don't get me wrong though, it sounds like you two have a very stable relaitionship, but she should realize that talking to an ex isn't something she should hide from you because it only makes her look guilty in the long run..

[shh!]

Oh you're a grown up. Well of course you have nothing to worry about. Should have let us know that sooner. Sheesh

Sorry, possessiveness and insecurity are generally associated with teenagers.

But by all means, do it your way. Just don't be surprised when you come across women who won't tolerate being told who they can and can't talk to. Maybe then you will see the value in being the person your significant-other *prefers* to talk to.

[InLove&Loved]

First: jealousy is rather natural when you care so much about another and love another. The fact that she was not straight up and hid the text from you was simply badly done. If she cares about you, truely cares, then she shouldn't hide anything. I know this: what relationship can survive without trust???? Especially with her talking to her ex....really...who wouldn't be paranoid and suspicious???