So about a month ago my boyfriend of 4 months and I broke up. He broke up with me, but I was anticipating it and sort of wanted to take some time off too. I wasn't ever angry at him for it, I was just angry with the circumstances. He had a lot of really bad luck come up over the course of our relationship and basically the stress became too much. He stopped caring about anything -- even the things he wanted the most and it's struck a huge blow to his ego. He gave me the cliche, it's not you, it's me and you deserve better, but I knew that he actually meant that because of everything that had happened.
Anyway, he also said that he still wanted to be friends. It wasn't just that comforting line either -- he said that he missed us talking all night and going out and grabbing coffee, that he missed us being friends. I assumed that the pressure of the relationship would be too much but since he still wanted to be friends, we could.
However, we stopped being friends. I tried to still hang out with him, but he kept blowing me off. I don't understand -- if he genuinely expressed that he wanted to be friends, then why would he just blow me off? I'm angry at him for giving me false hope or not being honest with me -- I'm the type of person that can handle "I'd like to be friends with you, but I need my space first." Plus, when we broke up, he said I was the most amazing girlfriend he's ever had.
Anyway, I want to talk to him, sit down like rational people and just get some answers. Like why we couldn't be friends or if there was other reasons we broke up. I don't think I ever got the answers I deserved. I think it's fair to ask someone that -- the point of failed relationships is to learn from them. Plus, I was more supportive of him during all this than anyone else in his life was without expecting much in return, is it fair of me to ask for something in return?
Is trying to talk to him a good idea? My friends say that he's in the past and there's no point, but, if possible, I'd still like to be friends with him because I miss that friendship -- not best friends, but it's the fact I can't talk to him or see him at all that's tough. We were best friends for a few months before we started dating. Should I wait longer? Or are my friends right -- should I just leave it behind me?