Stop blaming Cain! The woman repeatedly told him she loved him and wanted to spend the rest of her life with him, as well as communicated no doubts. He gave her the benefit of the doubt (if he even had any, which I'm not really sure he did) over and over because even on their breaks, she was still telling him she loved him. At this point it does no good for him to feel any blame.
She mind ****ed him, and alot of us have been in those shoes. The only thing you can really do is try to learn something from it and move on. Not pick apart what you might have done wrong.
Last edited by starbuck; 12-09-08 at 10:00 AM.
“Inside every cynical person, there is a disappointed idealist”--George Carlin
'Wing is just into that whole "look within yourself" bullshit.
(He's in college)
You guys are being morons. So it's her fault he chose to be so persistent and continue with the relationship, red flag after red flag? Don't tell me there weren't red flags, I just might go back through each of his little stories and point out each one of them. Better yet, I recognize the red flags, if you don't, YOU should go back and look for them.
But you know what, it's not ****ing important. This relationship - not important at all, for what it's worth. No Frasbee, not "look within yourself" bullshit; rather, preparing yourself for the next time.
Anger, it doesn't help a damn thing. You're not innocent, you have no right to be angry. You can be disappointed, upset that things did not turn out the way you would have liked, but you have no right to throw blame around, or any of that kiddie bullshit. Agreed, we all have those moments where we lose our mind, but you've gone way over the top, with your drinking, your depression, hatred, and all this shit. Can you wipe your ass, dude?
The outcome of this relationship turns out to be in your favor, whether you choose to believe that or not. That girl - completely dumb bitch, I've been saying that and thinking that for quite a while, as well as other people. If you can get your shit together, you can meet a better girl, even tomorrow if you want. So why the hell should you be angry?
I've (honestly) been there before, so take my straightforward, harsh advice. If not, okay, keep falling flat on your face; you're welcome to think I am some full-of-shit college student, if you like, but I still stand by my words.
Last edited by anachronistic; 12-09-08 at 11:15 AM.
I think self-reflection is fine when one is ready for it. He just might not be ready for it right at this moment. He still needs to grieve.
“Inside every cynical person, there is a disappointed idealist”--George Carlin
Grief is for people who have lost. Cain has not lost... just thinks he has. He needs a little time to realize this. And he won't find it at the bottom of a bottle, or in the cracks of kicked-in concrete, or hatred in and of itself.
It doesnt seem like you want to get over this chick if this thread is still continuing.
..::.*Love is giving someone the ability to break your heart but trusting them not to*.::..
I hope she ends up in jail where she has to spend her mornings sucking the toes of the Head Mama, the scent of the Mama's sex filling the air. And she sobs in to her pillow at night because she's separated from her AIDs baby.
what happened? was there another guy?
baby ya hustle. but me i hustle harder.