do you ever think about if your partner died?

[Tone]

Death is just part of the cycle. Just the passing on to whatever comes next.

We make a big deal out of it, mostly because we are selfish, I would say. When someone passes over, we mourn them because WE want them to still be around. To fullfil a void in OUR life. In death there is no more pain, no stress, no more suffering - at least not in the sense that we know it now. Who knows what comes next? Something has to.

Everyone asks the question... why me? Why now? Why here? When you really think about those questions you realize there is more going on than our minds can fathom. Why me? Why now? Why here?

With all that being said, I'll be the first to admit I do get sad about relatives/friends/pets dying and if I had a S/O I'm sure the thought of her dying would terrify me. I think it's just human nature to take a selfish approach on death of loved ones. It's just natural to us. This is just interesting to me.

[PussyCatDoll]

for us, if someone dies they must be buried, and once their buried girls cannot go to the graveyard.

so out of all the people i've lost the last time i see them, really is the last time i see them.

[misombra]

everybody's going to die. we have to focus on the relationship we have with people while they're alive.

[Gigabitch]

I assume my fiancee is going to outlive me and so is my daughter. Everybody else I could handle, I think.

[PussyCatDoll]

o ye, whens the wedding?

lets cheer up this morbid thread

[Gigabitch]

August 23rd. If we both live that long.

[Kromat]

For me, If someone died in my family, I would rather take their place, because of all the things that
I have been through to become stable, and they have so much more to gain and promise to people.
It'll still take time until I see my career become a reality and get that special someone to make my heart fulfilled.

[misombra]

i asked mikey if he ever thought about me dying and he said yes and that he would be devastated and it would be a great tragedy.

[boobaa]

My grandmother once told me that there are periods in life where some thoughts may come true. She was right. Now I am wondering every day, whether I should live in regret or try to move on.

In some points, I have always fantazised what it would be if someone died, lined up negative and even positive things of it.

[Kromat]

My grandmother once told me that there are periods in life where some thoughts
may come true. She was right. Now I am wondering every day, whether I should live in regret or try to move on.

We live in regret one way or another in our lives, we can't please everyone to satisfy their needs.
It has to be a decision of what fells that will be right for you at the moment and in the future.
People get hurt all the time, it's how we overcome the guilt that makes
us strong, and show that it has to be done to protect others.

[Lipp]

Realizing that you only live once is a great motivator to ask a special girl out for a date.

[Kromat]

Realizing that you only live once is a
great motivator to ask a special girl out for a date.

If the time isn't right, then there is no point
in trying, because it won't go anywhere.
That is why I'm waiting and it's not because I'm afraid, it
just lets me focus more on what my current goal in life is.

[PussyCatDoll]

August 23rd. If we both live that long.

post some pics! i have planned all my wedding.

flowers, dress the lot right down to seating arangement.

now i just need the groom..

[bluesummer]

I don't even want to think about my bf dying. He's my best friend, and the greatest thing that's ever happened to me. It would tear me apart.

I agree with Tony about the selfishness of mourning though, I've always felt the same way. Not that I wouldn't be upset if someone I loved died, but I do recognize that there's no need to overdo it....they're probably better off anyway, and I'm just crying over MY loss. My Grandma wants us to have a party when she dies. Seriously, a party.

[vashti]

I think traditiona grieving is healthy for the survivors. It makes the whole process more "real" and allows people who are still in denial (a normal part of the grieving process) understand that their loved one really IS dead.