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Down not Out
As you can probably guess i am on something of a high at the moment but she now has two days to spend with the other person in this mess, so if anybody like to give me a reality check please do!
Reality check, here it is:
What happened is irreversible. You will most likely not get your wife back after this affair. Even if by some stroke of fate or shear luck she does come back to you, you won't be able to trust her the trust is permanently broken between you two. I advise reading the above a couple of times until the reality of it sinks and start planning for a better future.
The first step is to settle the financials between the two of you and get the seperation agreement finalised (you will have to persist if she's not complying). Then get yourself and your son into counseling, remove yourself from her physically as much as posible this will be the best way to get over the intense withdrawal feelings which you will feel for the next couple of months. Let her know that you are both serious and determined to put this matter to an end and move on with your life, she has no power over you (one of the reasons she's still seeing this other man is because she thinks she can control you), she's made her decision to tear the family apart and now all of you will have to leave with it.
I feel for you in this dark and hurtful time my friend. I hope you and your son will get through this with the least amount of pain and find a better future for yourselves.
Don't cry, don't regret and don't blame
Weak find the whip, willing find freedom
Towards the sun, carry your name
In warm hands you are given
Ask the wind for the way
Uncertainty's gone, your path will unravel
Accept all as it is and do not blame
God or the Devil
~Born to Live - Mavrik~