He prefers porn over sex, is this normal?

[GrkScorp]

Cain.., calm down.. it's just a surge of knowledge and power.. I apologize, it's actually my fault..

Goose.., power corrupts.. absolute power corrupts absolutely.. and clearly.. you're feeling intoxicated with everything you've no doubt absorbed so far.. It's good to learn.. I have to say.. you pick up really fast.. you're a quick learner.. that's good.. but you're also a polite and respectful guy.. and I think I posted & stressed several times about being considerate to others.. there's a fine line between being socially intelligent and being a social robot.. don't let it get to your head..

Don't go overboard.. don't make it a sport to pull people's strings and toy with them to coax them into exposing their weaker side.. Especially with fellow guys.. not cool.. You're a great guy Goose.., I just wanted to help you realize that.. not turn you into some beast or monster.. stay golden.. don't back people into a corner.. You wouldn't like someone else to do it to you.., would you?

Anyway.. putting all this aside and out of the way.. now.., I do agree with what Cain said..

If a guy is in a relationship with someone, he sould NOT be thinking about other women.. I agree strongly.. when i'm in a relationship.. in all honesty.. I don't watch porn.. it doesn't even get to the point that I have to think.. "it would be disrespectful, blah blah".. no.. I'm in a relationship with someone I love.. or i'm dating someone I really like and have strong feelings for.. there's really no purpose for porn.. there's no reason to be thinking about other people..

So when the OP says that this is the issue.. the guys is a d*ck.. If I had a gorgeous redhead next to me that I was madly in love with.. I would rip her and tear her apart day in and day out.. we both wouldn't even have time to pee..

Definitely something you need to bring to his attention.. and something that needs to be fixed yesterday! So get working on it..

Best,

GrkScorp

[anachronistic]

Well, clearly when your partner becomes affected by your watching porn, that's when it crosses the line. Watching porn is not wrong, even if you are in a relationship. Who is to judge? I like to look at pornography (pictures, not movies) when it is more artistic and has more qualities than just the kind that get you to masturbate at it.

I also think people SHOULD be confronted by the thoughts of dating other people while they are in a relationship. I think you should be confronted by thoughts about other women, and then being glad to turn them down because of love. If you have to deny and force yourself not to think about those things, how strong is your love?

[Cain]

So when the OP says that this is the issue.. the guys is a d*ck.. If I had a gorgeous redhead next to me that I was madly in love with.. I would rip her and tear her apart day in and day out.. we both wouldn't even have time to pee..

Hah! Accurate description of mine and my SO's sex life. :o

[Cain]

Well, clearly when your partner becomes affected by your watching porn, that's when it crosses the line. Watching porn is not wrong, even if you are in a relationship. Who is to judge? I like to look at pornography (pictures, not movies) when it is more artistic and has more qualities than just the kind that get you to masturbate at it.

I also think people SHOULD be confronted by the thoughts of dating other people while they are in a relationship. I think you should be confronted by thoughts about other women, and then being glad to turn them down because of love. If you have to deny and force yourself not to think about those things, how strong is your love?

Obviously ever guy is going to have a "wonder what it would be like to get in her pants" moment. All guys have that when walking down the street and seeing a beautiful girl. But as you said, love shuts that down.

The problem is when guys choose porn over having sex with their SO. And this thread isn't the first time I've heard about it. Some guys have an unhealthy obsession with porn, neglecting their SO so they can watch it. Some sneak out of bed at night after turning their SO down for sex and spend the next few hours masturbating in front of the computer. That's unhealthy.. and those people should seek help.

[Illusional]

Good thing too, since you can't get anyone else to handle it.

oh you just wait, i'll bring all my germs in your direction soon.

I definitely think this guy is losing his attraction for her if he has to use porn to get off. I know some guys like to imagine what it would be like with someone else every now and then, but most of the time they still enjoy sex with the person they're with. This guy just seems to not be able to get off with her...

i'm sure that there are always other reaons behind this. let's say for example that you're dating a supermodel, only later to find out that she's a fish in bed. sex is really important to a lot of people, and maybe this girl isn't doing it for him either physically or actively. if that were the case, i'd probably consider breaking up with her, yet in the mean time of this questioning, there's nothing wrong with masturbation on the side.

as for all these mulitiple replies, both cain and goose here need to learn how to use the damn quote button correctly. copy and paste your shit all into one reply to make it easier on the readers...

raverboy

[GrkScorp]

oh you just wait, i'll bring all my germs in your direction soon.

Under the weather dude?

Psst..

Ginger & Orange Tea

Feel better raverboy

Best,

GrkScorp

[Gigabitch]

Hm. If guys really don't get off from penetration that much, then why don't they ask for handjobs or blowjobs more often? Shit, I'm always offering them to my bf, and crazy guy, he prefers to have sex with me, most of the time.

My guy only turns a blowjob down if he's out of juice, if you know what I mean. Heh heh.

Manners? Tone of voice? Don't you think you're being a little rude? Especially to a moderator?

Yeah, really. We mods aren't used to sass.












Baaaaaahahahahahaaaaa!

[boobaa]

I didn't read the whole thread, only two first posts. Maybe he is addicted to porn. I've heard this is actual problem that porn does cause distance of real sex, even if there is an opportunity to have it. I guess its just that with porn, you get used to see the whole picture, instead of the dull action of your own. There was even a movie about it, but I don't remember the name, sorry.

[Cain]

Dull action? Shit.. nothing dull when me and my girl do it. If someone's sex life is dull, spice it up. Try new things. Experiment. Try something people are afraid to try.

[Illusional]

Under the weather dude?

Psst..

Ginger & Orange Tea

Feel better raverboy

Best,

GrkScorp

ginger?? honestly i think that i eat that too much on a regular basis for it to have any more effect on me. however, i had to go to the doctor because i would out of commission for about 3-5 days. that's a new record for me.

raverboy

[Cain]

ginger?? honestly i think that i eat that too much on a regular basis for it to have any more effect on me. however, i had to go to the doctor because i would out of commission for about 3-5 days. that's a new record for me.

raverboy

Wuss.

[Illusional]

Wuss.

do you have the slightest idea about what is the current discussion?? we have moved past the sex topic already.

raverboy

[Cain]

Yeah. We're onto you being sick or something. :o

[Gigabitch]

Sick? Why, does he beat off to porn while a real, live girl is aching for it in the next room?

Doesn't sound like Illusional to me.

[Illusional]

Yeah. We're onto you being sick or something. :o

so let me get this straight, you're calling me a wuss for being sick and going to the doctor?? hrmm...

Sick? Why, does he beat off to porn while a real, live girl is aching for it in the next room?

Doesn't sound like Illusional to me.

umm...now where did YOU get this from?? shit, either i'm really missing it here, or people are pulling shit straight from their asses that it's still too funky for me to catch on to.

raverboy