Boyfriend Troubles

[watergirl802]

Ok so I have been dating this guy for 2 & 1/2 years we also live together. I am 25 and he is 22. Everything is good and we are moving in a month because he will be done with school. The only problem is that after dating for so long he still hasn't said that he loves me. When I ask him about it he says he doesn't know and when I say well what do you want out of this relationship he again says "I don't know"....it seems to be his answer for everything. He tells me that he is young and still in school and I understand that but not knowing whether he loves me or not after this long, whats up with that?? He also says he cares about me and doesn't want to hurt me, what is that supposed to mean?

[bluesummer]

After two and a half years he still hasn't said I love you? Why are you with him? I actually can't believe you've stuck by him this long. It doesn't sound to me like he's committed to you at all. It sounds like it's just what he said.....he doesn't know what he wants and he doesn't want to hurt you. So basically, he's staying in this just for you.

If I were you, I'd pull the plug on this. I think you are wasting your time with him. Let him go and figure out exactly what it is he wants, and you go find someone who knows they want to be with you.

[Gigabitch]

I agree. You're just way ahead of him, relationship-wise. Maybe you should try a guy three years older rather than three years younger. Could make a world of difference.

[Mish]

He tells me that he is young and still in school and I understand that but not knowing whether he loves me or not after this long, whats up with that?? He also says he cares about me and doesn't want to hurt me, what is that supposed to mean?

It sounds like he cares about you, he really likes you and really doesn't want to hurt your feelings because you are very special to him. But at the same time, he doesn't want to settle for you and maybe look around for some better prospects at a later stage. Maybe if he doesn't find any, he'll come back to you. That's what I'm getting out of this.

[1averagejoe]

I see it as he's holding onto you and if he finds something better he's going to leave you. If not...well 2.5 years and not telling you he loves you. I would have been long gone after that. He doesn't sound as mature as you, and I wouldn't expect him to be, you're 3 years older.