Some Rather Good Love Tips

[Junket]

Was on the hotmail welcome page:

We all know a couple like this: After years together they still hold hands, make each other laugh and blush, get along famously, and seem to enjoy a dynamite groove the rest of us envy. But what really goes on behind the scenes? Have these two soulmates actually found their perfect match in this big wide world, or are there secrets and strategies to making sure that romantic spirit continues to flourish over time?

In order to maintain the magic and sustain the spark, happy couples know they must:

Start solid. Remember that best friend you had when you were a kid? Whether blissfully playing side-by-side in the sandbox or building an awesome fort together, you two just grooved on being in each other's presence. Happy couples share that same serendipitous groove, if in the all-grown-up world. Romantic chemistry aside, they genuinely like each other as people and truly enjoy walking down the path of life hand-in-hand.

Keep it fresh. Routines and traditions can give a couple a comforting sense of predictability that's both grounding and reassuring. But surprises and adventures are also essential to really keeping that spark alive. Happy couples make a habit of shaking things up a bit by planning weekend getaways to undiscovered destinations, saving their pennies for a dream vacation, or launching fun and ambitious projects together. Having exciting things on the calendar to look forward to and sharing new adventures together reaffirms their connectedness and refuels the romance.

Clear the air. It's perfectly natural for any couple to encounter frustrations, disappointments, and miscommunications from time to time. But if grievances go unaired, they can pile up to a mountain of resentment and put the relationship at risk. Happy couples make sure they keep the communication open, and navigate those inevitable rough spots with honesty and mutual respect. If any issues should arise that seem too big or too complex to resolve between the two of them, they'll schedule some sessions with a couples therapist to help them safely weather the storm.

Have a life. A healthy relationship consists of two individuals who each maintain a strong sense of themselves and take a genuine interest in the other. One may decide to go back to school to pursue a higher degree, while the other may get involved in a volunteer project or a photography workshop. Maintaining individual identities and pursuing individual interests ensures that there'll always be new things to share and to learn about each other.

Tune it up. Whether it be once a month or once a year, a regularly scheduled sit-down can allow for some essential upkeep and maintenance of a healthy relationship. Happy couples may agree to a periodic summit meeting to check in with one another about the overall well-being of their partnership. They may discuss what they've been appreciating about one another, what dynamics could use some tweaking, and what is on the horizon for their future as a couple. A little preventative TLC from time to time helps keep those relationship engines running smoothly.

I wanted to post these because it's alot of what me and my girlfriend are conscience of and try to adhere to with our relationsihp, and so far it's been great. Granted, we're not an "old" couple, but I think a lot of people tend to forget number "4" (Have a Life).

[IndiReloaded]

Those are good tips & a good reminder. Thanks Fras!

Maybe a 'healthy relationship tips' sticky?

[Viraj]

Tips are appreciated, cheers =D

[Desinate]

Thanks for the tips
<3
Maybe this should be stickied?

[kalupe]

yeah i think most couples do get a problem in number 4. some people can be really clingy and needy.

i like the 2nd one, it's really something that would keep the relationship interesting and exciting, apart from the other physical activity --sex.

[Junket]

There! Permanently Stickied!

[Only-virgins]

There! Permanently Stickied!

Damn, anything that comes out of MSN hotmail pages is garbage.

[Junket]

Damn, anything that comes out of MSN hotmail pages is garbage.

Whatever OV, you have no say.

First you need to get a girlfriend.

[caringheart]

It sounds like very good advice. Thanks! It was a very good article. If people took notice of and followed this advice there would be many more happy couples (no matter what their ages).

[bohemiandonut]

So you're saying there's more to love than deflowering pretty virgin girls?

This is going to take some time for me.

[Junket]

So you're saying there's more to love than deflowering pretty virgin girls?

This is going to take some time for me.

No, I'm saying if you want to make a relationship last, those are some noteworthy tips.

[justine820]

Good advice

[stsang]

Good stuff.

[sir_vile_minds]

Good tips there.

It is true that people do forget to have a life too and get neglected by friends etc. We split our time between seeing friends, "me" time and seeing each other and it's all great.

[gogoguy]

Dude you left out the sex part. How do you keep the sex from getting old?