Biggest myths and facts

[lastwish]

Name the biggest myth(s) that you think the opposite sex believes. Then put the fact below it. Also, put your gender on the top of your post.I'll start.

Female

Myth:
Mind games: Some guys seem to think bad behaviors like being aloof will generate attraction or get the girl to stay with them.

Fact: The attraction is either there or not in the beginning. You can't generate attraction if there is nothing there. If its in a deeper relationship, acting aloof doesn't do any good since it doesn't promote communication. Mind games might SEEM to work for the short term because of individual insecurities but won't work for long term because trust me, your significant other will get you back someday (everyone has an ego).

Myth:

Guys who think talking openly about sex in public is themselves sexy.

Fact:

It makes you look a dog. Plus, its lame. Why? Is it cuz you can't get any so you're obsessed with it?

Myth:

Showering her with expensive presents will make her love you more. You don't want to look cheap.

Fact:

Girls love presents. But it doesn't buy you love.

Myth:

Acting tough and never give into her ways will make it clear that she can't push you around. You will seem more manly this way.

Fact:

Not paying enough attention to her and fulfilling her needs will ensure your place in the dump. Just because you have been hurt in the past doesn't mean you need to change into a bad boy or a defensive lawyer. She did it because she was a b**** and because you weren't the right guy for her (its your other qualities).

[DoesntMatter]

Male

Myth: Every guy is a sex god

Fact: The only ones you let in your panties are the ones who’ve done it 1000 times already

[Mish]

Lastwish, these are not "Myths and Facts" per se. These are just your beliefs.

Reality is in diversity, this world is full of people who act very differently. Some act like this and others act like that. Yes lots of people act irrationally and even more follow value systems which justify behaviour which otherwsie might seem unjustifiable. Some girls will find something repulsive others will find the exact same thing attractive. You can't say all of the above are myths you've busted with facts, some will look at them and laugh knowing that the exact same myths offered the exact same results you deny.

[DoesntMatter]

Well yeah Mish but you know what she's saying, come on don't kill this thread already

[Mish]

I don't kill, just putting some things in perspective


Carry on

[DoesntMatter]

Hey Mish, did you know I thought you were a girl for the longest time because of your avatar?

[Mish]

I know, many people did

In fact, Vash still thinks that I am

[Tiay]

giant myth:
she can't possibly not notice that I'm interested in her!

fact: speak up, no amount of trying to give signs will do it. If you want her you have to make the first move, because if you don't you will be in the friend zone. forever.


that's all I can think of right now.. I'm off to bed.

[DoesntMatter]

Not until you give me my mother****ing cookie goddamnit

[miSSleepy]

Myth:
Mind games: Some guys seem to think bad behaviors like being aloof will generate attraction or get the girl to stay with them.

Fact: The attraction is either there or not in the beginning. You can't generate attraction if there is nothing there. If its in a deeper relationship, acting aloof doesn't do any good since it doesn't promote communication. Mind games might SEEM to work for the short term because of individual insecurities but won't work for long term because trust me, your significant other will get you back someday (everyone has an ego).

Attraction CAN come from nothing. I've seen it happen and it has happened to me.


Myth: acting 'tough' and loud infront of your mates will attract a girl.

Fact.
Nope. You'll just look like a big old tool.

[vashti]

Lastwish I think is talking about chemistry, though. Simple attraction may grow, but chemistry cannot be manufactured.

[blues414]

Myth: calling your ex, while bawling on the phone can make him feel sorry for you and see what he is doing to you.

Fact: this is an even bigger turn off. make him feel like you are doing okay and you are not necessarily suffering all the time over the break up. respect yourself, dont humiliate yourself.

[enterprise]

giant myth:
she can't possibly not notice that I'm interested in her!

fact: speak up, no amount of trying to give signs will do it. If you want her you have to make the first move, because if you don't you will be in the friend zone. forever.


that's all I can think of right now.. I'm off to bed.

Truer words have never been posted.

[lkurian1]

Well I am not going to go for an argument whether what has been described here are myths or personal beliefs. But I suffered once as I was also having the impression buying expensive gifts would make the girl love me more. This reached a stage where I was only focusing on the gifts rather than the actual person as expected the relation drew curtains for me soon. I was not shattered though but I learned my lesson for sure and I back that comment too as its a perfect truth.

[Gribble]

Myth: When he says he loves you he means it.

Fact: He just wants pussy.