Paying for everything

[BrotherCanada]

how do women perceive a guy who pays for everything?

When shold it stop?


what do you girls think,

[vashti]

I think whomever does the inviting should pay in entirety until you are married, when resources are shared so it doesn't matter who pays.

[Gigabitch]

It's part of the dating ritual. I think once you become an exclusive couple, the girl should pay for things sometimes. Vashti's rule about the inviting is a good one, I think.

Once you get more serious and actually start living together, money has to be discussed thoroughly (I learned this the hard way).

[anachronistic]

I agree with Vashti's post. It only makes sense. If you're paying for everything, and she doesn't seem obliged to pay for something, she's a gold digger.

[Gigabitch]

I've seen a lot of the "he pays when they go out, she pays when they stay in, and does the work, too" thing. Staying in can be a lot cheaper, but quite often, she's buying the groceries, cooking him dinner, renting the movies, doing all the cleanup, etc. It can work out pretty equitably that way.

[vashti]

lilwing - golddigger maybe... or she is broke. In any case, you shouldn't pay for anything you will be resentful about. If you can't afford to go out three times a week, don't do it. If you don't feel she reciprocates your generosity to the best of her ability, then find someone new.

[anachronistic]

... well, given the exceptions.

[squirrley]

Golden rule, whoever does the invite pays!

Ive paid for alot of things while dating, and still pay for things now that Im married.

[lastwish]

It's great to get free stuff! Society expects the guy to pay and plus it makes them look like a gentlemen and it's romantic. But if the man is not courting the woman or if the woman have already make it clear she is not interested there is no reason for the guy to pay. He would just look like a wimp and she would look like a golddigger.

[Riyko]

I don't agree with guys paying for everything, it isn't fair especally if the girl asks the guy out.

I've always done paying for dates like this
girl invites - girl pays
guy invites - guy pays
both agree - both pay

[GrkScorp]

how do women perceive a guy who pays for everything?

When shold it stop?


what do you girls think,

There's an old joke we have in NYC..

A woman goes up to the gas station to fill up her car..

Her: $5 regular
Guy: Only $5?
Her: Well, i'm going over his house, but then I have to come back home, so better make it $10, I don't want him to think i'm easy.
Guy: (looks at her)
Her: But then again, after i'm done with that act, i'll have to eventually put out, afterall, he does provide well, so better make it $20
Guy: (looks at her)
Her: But i'll move into his place for a while, and we'll keep having sex until we get married, which means i'll need gas to go to the wedding, but I don't want him to think i'm a gold-digger, so we'll get married at City Hall, so better make it $30 regular.
Guy: But what about after the wedding?
Her: Haha! Oh hun, after the wedding he'll be paying for everything.