i need advice

[sad sack]

Hi, I’m a 23 year old man from the UK. I have a friend that I have known for a few years, although I have liked her as more than a friend for a while now. She recently broke up with her boyfriend and for around a month or two was single, I never did anything because I was scared of the rejection. I mean, if she was interested something would have happened by now, right?

She went on a blind date with this new guy; she says she really likes him and that he's nice, I know I should be happy for her but... I’m not.

When she was with her old boyfriend it was okay, I could handle it. She was going out with him along time before I knew her, but with this new guy, it’s just ripping me apart. I think it’s because, in my head I think, "It could have been me!" If I just had the balls to risk our friendship and ask her out.

What's worse is that I'm starting to resent her, we used to live in each other's pockets before this new guy turned up (her old bf worked away so she only used to see him on the weekends and a few days through the week.) since this new guy turned up I have hardly seen her. And when I do see her, all she talks about is him. The other day she told me she got so drunk on their second date she ended up going back to his place and SLEEPING WITH HIM!!! (My heart literally died inside my chest) is that normal! I mean the first date was a blind date so she did not know him before hand!!! If you add up all the time they had known each other before they had sex its a few hours, 5 at the most

Now, that’s all I can think about, him 'with' her. The thought of them giving each other oral sex affects me the worst! Once, I got so angry I wrecked my own house smashing things for about an hour and a half. If any one has any ideas why the thought of oral sex affect me the worst I would appreciate it.

I can’t function properly; I lost my job because I kept ringing in sick because I’m always hung over. I'm getting drunk about 5 or 6 days a week now. I’m not eating right either; I have started to put on weight, noticeably.

Also ever since I started to have feelings for her I haven’t even looked at another woman it’s been 2 years

...my life HAS fallen apart.

I am willing to listen to any advice anyone has to offer.

Sad-sack.

[wethepeople18]

If you really see there being a chance of you two being together, then wait out her current relationship. After she breaks up, finally step up to the plate and tell her what you feel. Yes, risk the friendship; because right now, it seems it's eating you alive.
If you see no hope for a future, take her off the pedestal and take back your life right now. Get her off your mind!

[Mathias]

Wow.

Um, go out and date people. Now.

Life is way too short to be hung up on one person, and you're doing this to yourself by pining for one girl in two years.