Going mad with jealousy...should i be? !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[Effect]

Hi i'm 20 my girlfriend is 18 and just recently gone to university....we have been together a year and a half..she now lives 3 hours away which is ok as we still see eachother most weekends....however at the mo i'm driving myself sick with jealousy....should i be?

I look on her facebook dailey and see pictures of her out with all her mates, pictures of her kissing guys on the cheek's, all hug'd up with guys(who she says are her really gooood mates and are just lovely guys)


Also i've been reading her text messages and see text from guys saying "Love you.x" - this guy is bisexual btw if that makes a difference so he's quite feminit....also texts between her and some other guy saying

her "Thanks"

him "what for?"

her "the talk, it was really nice babe.x"

him "yeah it rly was, see you 2moz honey.x"

Now she's always had alot of boy freinds but atm all i can think is she's cheating or is gonna sooon enough.....i need serious help/advice and should i be worried?


thanks.

[Gigabitch]

I don't know your girlfriend, but I must say, if I was getting text messages like that, my boyfriend would flip out, and rightly so. I don't think you're being too ridiculous, but it sounds like she expects you to take it in stride. Maybe you're going to have to just suck it up if you want to keep her.

[Effect]

i know....the love thing is just a mate thing but the whole talk thing....


also from the same guy text like this



him "you going home this weekend?"

her "yes honey, why is that ok?"


? am i flipping out?


also if i was to bring this up shed just go mad at me and say there lovely guys thats all.....and id end up saying sorry....

like some guy wrote on her wall saying


Jess is fit

and lovely to.x


and i said am i wrong in finding that abit strange?

and she just hada go at me saying i knew you would say that he's just a lovely guy he's so nice.

[Gigabitch]

If you didn't take exception to this, I would advise you to open your shorts and confirm the presence of actual testicles.

This is bullshit. She should stop messing with your head. How would she feel if you were the one getting messages from your bisexual female friend that said stuf like that?

[Junket]

also if i was to bring this up shed just go mad at me and say there lovely guys thats all.....and id end up saying sorry....

Stop being such a pussy.

As Giga said, grow some balls.

Draw a very distinct line for her, and if she can't accept it, break up with her.

To tell you the truth, I only see you breaking up with her if you're gonna stand up for yourself.

Are you man enough?

Or are you just her little bitch?

[LostNotFound]

you need to go down there and settle it once and for all.

[Effect]

i had it out with her and said its not u i dont trust its them....and she then went mad how obv its that i dont trust her and if it was the other way around then she wouldnt care cus she knows i love her to much to do anything and it shud be the same.......so now im feeling guilty we hada big argument on the phone and she sed i cant be doing with this and hung up i then stupidly text and rang her to no reply...so i think its of and im cut in 2.

[Junket]

i had it out with her and said its not u i dont trust its them....

I can't believe you fed her that bullshit and expected it to go down. I hope you don't believe it yourself.

You clearly don't trust her.

It's just sad it sounds like she's the one who has to the balls to break it off.

Suck it up, man.

And don't go crawling back like a little pussy.

[Effect]

but i do trust her, it just hirts me wenever i see her in pics all hugged up with guys etc........ive quite clearly ****ed it all up so what the hell can i do now?seriously i need to make this right again she's my life sad i know but she is.

[Junket]

but i do trust her, it just hirts me wenever i see her in pics all hugged up with guys etc........ive quite clearly ****ed it all up so what the hell can i do now?seriously i need to make this right again she's my life sad i know but she is.

If you trusted her, then what's the problem? If you trust her, then you trust that absolutely nothing will come of any other man's desires for her. Clearly this is not the case. You can tell she's putting an eye on other guys.

If I could slap you in the face I would.

Trust me, you'll find little sympathy here for your groveling.

People grow apart in college, let it go.

Plus, you already gave her all the ammo she needs to break up with you and not feel bad about it. You're "controlling and jealous". When really, you put her on a pedestal and treated her like a queen. Have some self-respect. Jesus.

[Effect]

so how do i resolve this....im not breaking up with her, she means to much to me......i need to make things right how do i do that?

[Junket]

so how do i resolve this....im not breaking up with her, she means to much to me......i need to make things right how do i do that?

You can't.

Women want men. Not needy little boys that live 3 hours away. Don't you get it?

You're making this harder on yourself because you're in denial.

I've already attacked your manhood several times and you keep coming back like a wounded dog.

Is something not clicking up there?

She. Doesn't. Care. About. Your. Feelings.

Now, my question is, why don't you give a shit about your well being?

What has she ever done for you?

When was the last time she ever apologized to you for something?

[Effect]

she loves me, maybe if i didnt keep bringing up all these stupid ****ing pety things then wed be fine....we were fine this weekend rly good and then i go **** it up with shit like this.....i need to get things back

[Junket]

she loves me, maybe if i didnt keep bringing up all these stupid ****ing pety things then wed be fine....we were fine this weekend rly good and then i go **** it up with shit like this.....i need to get things back

Dude.

So far, you've nothing but proven your insecurity and lack of confidence and self respect.

You have issues stemming deeper than your sorry excuse of a "relationship".

How old are you?

Do you live with your parents, and what is your relationship with them?

How were your grades in school?

How was your social life in school?

Answer these questions for us and you'll start getting the advice you need.

[Effect]

How old are you?20

Do you live with your parents, and what is your relationship with them?
yes......they care about me to much.
How were your grades in school?
not bad then got a destinction at collage
How was your social life in school?
very good, i was one of the popular lot.