So, I'm absolutely awesome... (Part 2)

[Mathias]

Until it starts to become something and I get scared away by something.

Here's the first thread:

[URL="http://www.loveforum.net/love-advice-forum/19466-so-im-absolutely-awesome-game.html"]http://www.loveforum.net/love-advice-forum/19466-so-im-absolutely-awesome-game.html[/URL]

I'll update quickly. Went to the two parties the weekend before this most recent one, she was very hot/cold throughout. Was nearly going to dismiss it, but asked her out for this past weekend anyway, so we were set to go out Sunday.

But, there was yet another party on Saturday, and she was there. Everything went well, but I felt like I was being set up by my (and her) friends the whole time. At the end, we were parked in the same place (she rode with friends), so we all walked to the car, but her two friends bolted for the car and said goodbye quickly. So, apparently I'm taking Amanda home now.

We go back to her place, kiss for the first time and all that cute stuff. I leave at about 3, probably 30 minutes after I got there.

Fast forward to Sunday. I pick her up and we go downtown. Afterward, we have dinner and head back, where she asks if I want to hang out for a while. Fine. We actually have a fantastic time--she's funny, cute, extremely intelligent, pretty much everything that makes a very good first impression on me.

Things get pretty heated up...quickly. We're eventually in bed, I stop before we actually have sex, but everything but that happened. Surprising, but okay. She asks me if I want to stay over, which I do.

But after that is where I got freaked out. She goes to the bathroom to get ready for bed, but wouldn't most people get dressed first? Especially when we've known each other for two weeks? Same thing with the morning. I'm all for hot naked girls, but it was like we've been married for five years, and everything like that is comfortable.

Am I weird for thinking about that as strange? Should I just ignore it and move on? We're not even in a relationship at this point. Hell, I just went out with someone else last week (which is also a creepy situation, but that's another story entirely).

Maybe I'm trying to freak myself out again, but after the last girlfriend (who ended up totally crazy), I don't want to deal with that again.

[Charlie Boy II]

What's the problem? She walked from the bed to the bathroom naked?

[Mathias]

What's the problem? She walked from the bed to the bathroom naked?

Sort of.

I don't know...it obviously wasn't just that--it was a combination of things that led me to think she was way too comfortable this early--like we were married or something.

[Gigabitch]

Jeeze, you make shit up worse than I do.

You're telling yourself you're uncomfortable. It doesn't matter why. I guess you need to slow it down.

[Mathias]

Jeeze, you make shit up worse than I do.

You're telling yourself you're uncomfortable. It doesn't matter why. I guess you need to slow it down.

I'm a baby when it comes to that stuff. I'm always afraid of relationships/commitment.

[Gigabitch]

Well, at least you know this and don't over-commit yourself too often.

[vashti]

You have to be kidding me!?! This is really an issue?

Are you trying to say that cockblocker chick may have been right to warn her friend about you?

[Mathias]

You have to be kidding me!?! This is really an issue?

Are you trying to say that cockblocker chick may have been right to warn her friend about you?

Yes, it's an issue. My fear of commitment knows no bounds--which the irony of me posting in a love forum is noted.

Seriously, I don't want to go from being single to married. We're going out again this weekend--hopefully I'll fight through my bullshit.

[Gigabitch]

Just a thought- cockblocker girl probably would have put her clothes back on to go to the bathroom. Maybe you should consider her instead.

[Mish]

Yes, it's an issue. My fear of commitment knows no bounds--which the irony of me posting in a love forum is noted.

Seriously, I don't want to go from being single to married.

So where DO you want to go? From being single to being single again? Do you plan to go out and then drop her or do you plan to date her and see if it goes somewhere?

If it's the first I think your worry is justified. If it's the second, then you will need to re-evaluate your fear of commitment so it doesn't affect your future relationship.

[Mathias]

Just a thought- cockblocker girl probably would have put her clothes back on to go to the bathroom. Maybe you should consider her instead.

Let's just say I'd want cockblocker girl's clothes on as fast as possible.

[Mathias]

So where DO you want to go? From being single to being single again? Do you plan to go out and then drop her or do you plan to date her and see if it goes somewhere?

If it's the first I think your worry is justified. If it's the second, then you will need to re-evaluate your fear of commitment so it doesn't affect your future relationship.

It's the second.

[Mish]

It's the second.

Well, how will you get to that stage if you fear commitment? Isn't commitment the ultimate goal with the second?

Perhaps you are worrying of things moving too fast? If you are, put your mind at ease I don't think it's time to worry. It's a good sign actually, it means she is comfortable with you and things are looking up.

[vashti]

Silly mish! Don't you know that a girl is supposed to be comfortable enough to get naked with you, let you put a piece of your body into her body risking pregnancy and venereal disease, make awkward grunting/moaning noises and odd faces while having sex, probably put their mouth on your genitals, BUT they are supposed to feel too shy to walk to the bathroom afterwards?

Nudity is indiscreet.

[Gigabitch]

I'm nude right now.


















Okay, I'm not really. You're safe, Mathias.