Insecurity

[Michael6084]

this is a general question, but why is "insecurity" such a big deal? maybe it isn't truly, but it seems to be at least when you're a guy.

i guess i gotta define "insecurity". its obvious you know if a guy happens to want to be with a girl 24/7 or gets jealous real easily. but i mean some girls i know see insecurity simply as a guy not knowing what to decide between two different places to go, or a guy asking a girl a question that's more self-conscious, like "did i look alright the other day?" type thing.

to me that looks simply being self-conscious, but some take it as "insecurity". my idea of insecurity is being nervous almost every time one is with another person.

insecurity is one of those things that guys, at least my age that i know, have to worry about. lol almost ironic, you have to worry about being worried. but i dunno if you ever read those dating guides that some guys look at. i happened to be walking through a borders and out of curiosity i flipped through a book. but one of the things that was important to focus on was "to show that you are a confident, strong man". im thinking like "why? whats the big deal if you're a guy and you happen to be unsure about a certain thing?"



if anyone has personal experiences with "insecurity", that'd be great because im still trying to grasp why it's a big deal.

[Illusional]

i think it's a personal issue. some children had to watch their parents go through a divorce at a young age, which brought up the fact that people do leave them. from my experiences, these people tend to be more needy than someone who hasn't had their parents separate.

as for being indecisive, i think that's from parents babying their children too much and doing everything for them.

raverboy

[vashti]

No one healthy likes insecure people, whether they be male or female. It is unattractive in everyone.

[Illusional]

haha look at you... you're not in the gallery..

raverboy

[Michael6084]

haha look at you... you're not in the gallery..

raverboy

am i supposed to take offense to this?

[Illusional]

am i supposed to take offense to this?

that was geared towards vash..mike.. honestly i don' tcare what you look like.

raverboy

[vashti]

Why was that geared to me? I'm not insecure. Do you wanna see what I look like? I don't want to post in the gallery, but I'll PM you.

I am an ugly old hag.

[Illusional]

oh yes... please send that haggy picture to me. i need something useful to post whore on the internet.

dammit i forgot you give you my email address.. [email]hotmilfs@LA.com[/email]

raverboy

[vashti]

Err.. nevermind.

[Illusional]

haha, well i did put the HOT infront of the milf portion.. does that score me any points??

raverboy

[vashti]

Give me your picture and I'll post it on mine:

[email]limpasianweenies@haha.com[/email]

[Illusional]

i already got my picture in the gallery, AND i'm the main attraction of a site called, [url]www.asiansatisfied60womenatonce.com[/url]

raverboy

[vashti]

Only a high-quality chef could satisfy 60 women at once.

[TADA]

I dunno if you would consider this any kind of insecurity, but since this January, I have not been able to look back at anything I have done or said for/to someone else, and not regret it.

I don't think it is something I am able to let anyone deal with. It is quite horrible to have a partner and let your mind think of the worst scenario possible for every single thing she does, and actually adopt that as reality.

So yes, I think it's a pretty huge deal....

[Illusional]

Only a high-quality chef could satisfy 60 women at once.

oh then you dunno of my skills.... eggs and rice baby all the way.

raverboy