Ive Cheated And Lied How Do I Get The Girl Back, Ill Do Anything!!!!

[raida4lfe]

Hi my name is jack i am 20 and my girlfriend is 18, and i recently cheated on my girlfriend jill for a girl named Kristine, she absolutely despises. Kristine and i have been friends for a long time and jill never liked her because Kristine has made out with other guys while they had boyfriends before but i never thought anything of it.
Well one day i call Kristine ask her if she wants to come to my house and she comes over and eventually i just kiss her and i guess i kissed her (i didn't tell jill this part) because i thought i could get away with it. Well i take Kristine home i told her the next morning i am not going to see her anymore. And i told her not to tell anyone. But i feel really guilty of course and i end up telling my girlfriend what happened. Shannon had broken up with me and ever since I've been trying to get her back because i feel like i am not that kind of person, I'm not the one that cheats on their girlfriend's and don't care. I feel like i can do a lot better and i just want to treat her as good as she treated me and i believe i can do that. I know that people say that people who cheat are going to do it again but i wouldn't ever think about doing that again to Jill. Shannon means so much to me and i told her this part of the story that i kissed Kristine once and she kissed me a second time but that’s not true i felt like in order for her to give me another chance that would be the way to go. But i did make out with Kristine not once but twice and i felt so guilty about it so i told Jill i only kissed her twice and that kissed me a second time. But we really made out twice, but i did take her home, soon after and told Kristine the next day i am not going to see her anymore. But anyways Jill eventually tells me she will give me a second chance and because i told her that we only kissed twice and didn't make out twice and that i pursued this girl both times. But the thing is, i don't have any feelings for this girl, i really don't. Well anyways Jill tells me she is going to give me a second chance including i didn't tell her exactly what happened. But Jill emails this girl telling her she's pathetic and that she is very disrespectful...etc. And eventually Kristine tells her mostly everything of what happened. Now this backfired because she doesn't believe me and Jill said if what i told Jill was true then i need to confront Kristine about it over the phone while Jill is listening and i am so afraid one what’s going to happen. I guess depending on what i tell her and what Kristine says tells Jill if she will give me another chance or not. I wrote down what i should say to Kristine because if i don't write it down then it won't come out. And i have no freaking idea on what to do?? I'm totally clueless? Could anyone give me advice on what to do without telling Shannon the whole truth because that will devastate her that jill lied again and i cheated. Please if you can help me that would be great.

[raida4lfe]

help me pease

[Gigabitch]

Dude. I can't make any sense of this. Who is your girlfriend? Jill or Shannon?

[anachronistic]

let the girl move on.

i hope you have learned a lesson.

[Dave4586]

what you cheated and lied there one way. don't let it happen again. i lied to my girlfriend but not cheating is somewhat ok long is not really bad lie

[raida4lfe]

jill is my girlfriend everyone and kristine is the girl i cheated with

[Gigabitch]

Who is Shannon?

[raida4lfe]

shannon is no one i meant jill

[anachronistic]

how do you think jill would feel if you called her shannon?

she'd be like "WHO THE **** IS THAT"

[misombra]

sorry, but those kind of things are very hurtful, which is why you're not supposed to do them. it's worse that this is a girl she doesn't like.

don't do that in the future. it's not nice.

[Mathias]

what you cheated and lied there one way. don't let it happen again. i lied to my girlfriend but not cheating is somewhat ok long is not really bad lie

Did you lie to her, or could she just not comprehend you?

[ExpoNovak]

Dude, tell her the truth, apologize and then let her make her own decisions from there. The best deal you can make right now is to never speak to Kristine again.

And you did not cheat. You crossed the line and your girlfriend found out about it. Kissing someone else is incredibly hurtful, but in my opinion (and there are many who will disagree) it hardly constitutes the typical form of "OMIGODHEHADSEXWITHHER??? The Bond is Broken!!!" caliber cheating. Not by a long shot. I've been in some nasty situations over cheating (some my fault, some not) but never once has mere kissing been that big a deal--ESPECIALLY if there are no emotions involved.

Geez.

Look, apologize, tell her you love her (ooo..and tell her no emotions were involved with the other girl), swear to never speak to the lil tramp again and walk away. Do not call, do not text, NOTHING. Give her the chance to be on her own and think it over. You owe it to her. And tell the TRUTH. If she wants a three way conversation between herself, you, and Ms. Hobag that shouldn't be a problem at all if you are telling the truth, the whole truth and nothing but the truth.

[Vain]

Tell Jill, that a kiss with Kristine means nothing a kiss with her means everything.

[bohemiandonut]

You were kind of an asshole and you deserve to be broken up with.

I on the other hand, do not. God****ingdammit. How am I suppose to ****ing take ****ing physics/bio/chemistry without post-homework sex?

"shannon is no one i meant jill" Really? I'm guessing shannon is her real name and jill is a fake name.

Anyway I agree with Expo.

[Ayame]

jill shannon Kristine? This is a very hard to follow story. Bottom line is that you cheated, I don't doubt you're sorry. But its sort of out of your hands now. Its up to Jill, or Shannon, or whoever your ex is to forgive you. Basically, you could cry til your blue in the face, if she doesnt want to forgive you, she doesnt have to.
And thats the price you pay, and its a high price, I know. But I guess its something you'll have to live with and learn from. Its a lifetime process, I know....