While what your father said is statistically true, it was rude for him to say it to her. Does he not approve of her?
Anyway, this is the thing: if you all are planning to eventually be married, it is in your best interest to BOTH be working towards having the other's family like and accept you. Sometimes people just say stupid things. Your father no doubt loves you, and wants what is best for you, and the idea of an increased risk of divorce is probably worrying him. Your girlfriend, while understandably upset, needs to come to the realization that what your father did was done out of concern for you. As such, she needs to try to overlook it. It might help if you could get your dad to apologize, but even if he won't, she should overlook the comment.
Also, YOU need to work on patching things up with her brother. Depending on their ages, siblings argue *all the time*, and since you objected to his calling her names, he is unlikely to do it again in your presence.
Trust me when I say it is much better to be in good with your S/O's family than to be fighting with them. You both just need to learn how to not hold a grudge.
You know, I have a really weird mother who says outrageous things all the time. My husband and one of my brothers-in-law thinks it is hysterical. Two other brothers-in-law allow themselves to take things personally and get offended. The two that can laugh about it are infinitely more appreciated by everyone.
Last edited by vashti; 19-08-07 at 11:27 PM.
Relax... I'll need some information first. Just the basic facts - can you show me where it hurts?