The Doctor is Confused... [long post]

[sexmaster]

[Removed for a real reason] - the doctor is back...

[LostNotFound]

dude that was a very veeery long post lol

if your the sex master how comes your not in it for the sex?

i think you should give her some space so she can decide what she wants to do with her situation and for that i would say remain friends but keep a lil distance

how old are you if you don't mind me asking? just curious

[sexmaster]

[Removed for a real reason]... oh, boy...

[vashti]

As a fellow nursing student with children, I don't know HOW you have time to be concerned about such trivial things as girlfriends. You should be focused on school and your kid, period. Besides, that girl is too young for you, and if she were REALLY interested in you, she'd have dumped her boyfriend by now.

[sexmaster]

You are so right, Vashti. What was I thinking? Thanks for your input.

[Steve2004]

...that was easily solved. strike one for the love doctor. 10 points for vash.

[misombra]

could someone give me the cliff notes version plz?

[Steve2004]

Here is the problem: I am currently loveless and in my 3rd year of Nursing school -

Introduced to a girl by a friend. We shared some of the same classes. For this school year, she is finally my classmate in ALL subjects. I feel so comfortable with her as she is with me, but she has a boyfriend of three years.

She nor I ever noticed it until everyone (including her boyfriend) started asking questions and rumors spread quickly around the campus - everyone thought we had a relationship. this is where the problem started.

She told me that no one in her entire life ever treated her like the way I do, not even her own boyfriend, she said all she needed was a friend

I told her about my feelings for her and she told me that she already knew since summer.

That would have been the end of it; my heart was crushed

she'd smile at me for no reason, but we don't stay in one place together for long to avoid unnecessary rumors. A lot of my friends believe that she's in love with me but is confused because she has a boyfriend who has never wronged her in any way - no reason to dump the guy.

I believe that she's just concerned about my feelings. At this point, I am simply trying to stay at a certain distance from her that she always manages to destroy; she always finds a reason to break that gap and be right beside me.

My options are simple but not simple to do: just let go and see where it goes OR actively stay away from her.

by the way, it's not about the "sex"... I am not after her body... in fact, I don't know what I am after.

sorry simba, that's the best i could do

[sexmaster]

[Removed for a real reason]... bad post... hehehe...

[vashti]

Her reply was simple (this is verbatim): "I don't like your proposal and I could care less about everyone else."

Of course she doesn't like it. She is 20. 20 year olds are quite often ruled by their emotions. 30 year old men, on the other hand, are usually not.

I think you are going to be in deep if you maintain this pseudo-friendship. If I were you, I'd distance myself entirely, at LEAST until after you pass the NCLEX.

[sexmaster]

[Removed for real reasons]... again...

[vashti]

Yes, I am female, and yes - I understand why she is behaving this way. It is because you do not have firm boundaries. Your lack of firm boundaries is being interpreted as encouragement. I am sure there are plenty of other students than can help her with her questions. In fact, I believe that is what the instructor is for.

[misombra]

lol girl he ain't gonna stop talking to her.

[vashti]

I know... I am just practicing my typing skills. haha

Hey, miso - why don't you add to Illusional's poem thread?

[sexmaster]

[Removed for real reasons] - so bad...