BDSM Tips?

[Tiay]

I didn't say you think that sex is filthy. I just thought maybe people who enjoy being tied up were told that enjoying sex is wrong/selfish/whatever, and therefore they get off on having it "forced" on them. But that doesn't explain why I would like to try bondage, so I don't know if that's an accurate theory.

I don't think it's necessarily a psychological problem in most cases. I suspect people are just wired very differently when it comes to sex. For instance, many people like dirty talking, which is a form of non-physical abuse. I can't personally imagine that being a turn on.

[zro]

you might be right, it may be the genetics, i just see it as very ****ing weird and disturbing, but then again that just my ****ing point of view, but you seem to know alot about it and are keen to give it a go, i guess i can say your boyfriend is "lucky" that you are so "open minded" (do you like that description better), personally i would never do it, but if it suits you so be it.......

[Kiechi]

glad to see some agree with me, i just cant see how pain and lust/sex are in anyway related, in my opinion they are two completely different sensations

vashti: you are a coward...hahaha just joking

Holy hell, I'm surprised the world hasn't exploded yet. It must be one of your first posts where you haven't strung along the word ****.

OP --- No.

[zro]

dont get your ****ing hopes up, it was a momentary lapse in concentration

[Only-virgins]

I'm into ETPA (Eating The Pussy Alot)

[DoesntMatter]

I'm into ETPA (Eating The Pussy Alot)

What... no you aren't

[Tiay]

you might be right, it may be the genetics, i just see it as very ****ing weird and disturbing, but then again that just my ****ing point of view, but you seem to know alot about it and are keen to give it a go, i guess i can say your boyfriend is "lucky" that you are so "open minded" (do you like that description better), personally i would never do it, but if it suits you so be it.......

yeah, I don't know, I guess since people are already either introverted or extroverted at birth, it could be genetic, or maybe some combination of nature and nurture.
Actually my boyfriend is very gentle and not really in this stuff as much. But that's ok

[anachronistic]

there's a difference between being rough in bed and '****ed up shit'. everyone likes to be roughed up in bed sometimes, but that bondage thing really disturbs me.

[vashti]

Currently, the American Psychiatric Association considers paraphilias to be forms of mental illness, including pedophilia, exhibitionism, fetishism, transvestism, voyeurism, and sadomasochism.

[Tiay]

hm, yeah, I guess those are pretty messed up alright. I wouldn't consider a shoe fetish as a major mental problem though...

[anachronistic]

finding shoes sexy and having a shoe fetish are two different things.

[Tiay]

yes. and I didn't say finding shoes sexy. I said shoe fetish.
Note the sheer volume of totally messed up porn on the web? People are perverted. As long as whatever it is takes place between consenting human adults, causes no injury and doesn't spread disease... I'll try not to judge it.

[Tiay]

anyway, this has gone a bit OT. my advice to anyone wanting to get into BDSM?
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[vashti]

hm, yeah, I guess those are pretty messed up alright. I wouldn't consider a shoe fetish as a major mental problem though...

I think what lilwing may have been trying to say that to find a woman in a pair of sexy shoes arousing is different than finding the shoe *itself* arousing. You really don't think it is odd to be intensely aroused by an inhuman object?

Anyway, I found an interesting article about paraphilias:

[url]http://homepage.psy.utexas.edu/Homepage/Group/MestonLAB/Resources/articles/paraphilias.htm[/url]

I admit I find this stuff disturbing.

[anachronistic]

yea, exactly. god damn i suck at english. vashti shares my views on this.