Partner's friends

**Blueberry** · 23-06-07, 09:29 PM

What happens if you dont get along with your bf/gf's best friends?! Do you worry that they may affect his/her feelings for you? And would you let your friends influence your feelings for you partner?

I find it important to get along with my bf's friends but its not working so well

**enterprise** · 23-06-07, 11:25 PM

What about it isn't? Just not compatible? When you found it wasn't working, did you try harder?

**meh** · 23-06-07, 11:41 PM

Getting along doesn't require much. No one says you have to be best friends with them. And if you don't like them or don't enjoy their company, then just politely avoid common activities. Just don't be a bitch about it, and don't insult them, not even to your boyfriend if he's sensitive about it.

But no, you don't have to be friends with his friends.

And I wouldn't let my friends affect how I felt about someone I was in a relationship, unless they made some very good points, like "dude, she's doing heroin."

Know what I mean?

**zro** · 24-06-07, 12:16 AM

from a male's point of view: i dont think its important at all to get along with my friends girlfriends and vice versa, i think its better that way - as guys (from my experience anyway) will not want to talk about their girlfriends with their mates, its a different story if you are the slut he picked up on the weekend, but if you are his serious/long term girlfriend, chances are they dont talk about you and couldnt care less - as misunderstandings can happen very easily and to be honest i cant be ****ed listening to my mates talk about their girlfriends, plus it would be ****ing awkward

i think its the opposite for females though, they always want to talk and boast about their boyfriend, but as a guy i would think he would like to keep these 2 parts of his life seperate

if its ****ing bothering you that much, ask him about it

**DoesntMatter** · 24-06-07, 12:28 AM

Hmm... To give you a male perspective...
I have never cared about who my friends were dating. I never really liked them or disliked them, they were just kind of "there" in my eyes. I don't think it's that important. Unless you are a controlling bitch intent on pussy-whipping your boyfriend, in which case his friends might not start to like you as much.

Just be sure that you give your boyfriend time to go out and have fun with his friends without you sometimes. In other words, don't interfere with your bf's friendships and they shouldn't care.

**Blueberry** · 24-06-07, 01:24 AM

Lol ok just to clear things out i am not a bitch and i am not pussy whipping my boyfriend, i get along with some of his friends but not all and specially not the ones who were close to his ex. I was just wondering if guys like having their girlfriends with their friends

**zro** · 24-06-07, 01:27 AM

no, in most cases they dont, his friends most probably couldnt give a **** about you

**vashti** · 24-06-07, 01:31 AM

I agree with meh. It really isn't so hard to just get along. You don't have to like them, and they don't have to like you, but you should all behave well. BTW - I tend to see "getting along" problems usually stemming from the girls in these situations. Males are often easier to get along with than we are. Be careful about stirring up trouble. Some guys really DO value their male friendships very highly because girlfriends tend to come and go.

**Gribble** · 24-06-07, 01:34 AM

Yup. If a girl causes shit with my close friends she's out of my life right then and there. She'll be riding the bus back home and she sure as hell won't hear from me again.

**Blueberry** · 24-06-07, 01:55 AM

Ya but im not causing any problems :S i am the easiest person to get along with and vashti you are so right, my disagreements are always with girls which is the case here, im still close to his guy friends but some of the girls are just bitches!

**vashti** · 24-06-07, 02:03 AM

Then I think it would be best to limit your time with them. When you have to be with them, be *really* sweet, and if they do something nasty in front of your boyfriend, just say sweetly, "Wow - that was really mean". You wouldn't believe how much of an ass it makes the other person look, and the humiliation will prevent them from doing it again. Oh, and NEVER gossip with them.

**DoesntMatter** · 24-06-07, 02:14 AM

Originally Posted by vashti

Oh, and NEVER gossip with them.

Most guys hate gossip. I can't stand it when girls gossip around me.. Not only does it make me feel uncomfortable, but I think it's cheap to talk shit about a person behind their back when they are not there to defend themselves. Makes you look pretty nasty as well. Don't do it

**meh** · 24-06-07, 03:13 AM

I like gossip

**Only-virgins** · 24-06-07, 03:24 AM

**** friends, I would give up all of mine for one night of pussy. They don't matter and are as replaceable as the Pepsi that I am drinking right now.

**DoesntMatter** · 24-06-07, 03:33 AM

Originally Posted by Only-virgins

**** friends, I would give up all of mine for one night of pussy. They don't matter and are as replaceable as the Pepsi that I am drinking right now.

I would imagine that friends > pussy

If you have friends don't give them up! Hell no!

You would give up all of your friends for having sex once? Dude, if you want to have sex THAT bad just pay for an escort. I'm going to Toronto in a couple of weeks and will probably do just that. If you live close enough we can meet up

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