Do you find your partner attractive?

[ofthemcleods]

I have been talking to my girlfriend of 5 years who has said that whilst she loves me and does not find me "unattractive" she does not find me attractive.

Do you think that this is a problem? What should I do? Do most women feel that way about their partners? Anyone been in a successful long term relationship where this has been the case?

[LostNotFound]

ok she shouldn't have told you that because it's a blow to your self esteem.

obviously it's not a problem for your relationship coz you been together 5 years? forget it dude.

try not to be so insecure.

[Converse]

I think it means she's 'used' to you, don't take offense to it, she loves you for your mind obviously.

[Only-virgins]

I think you partner should always find you attractive, otherwise there might be a problem.

[vashti]

I think after 5 years, you shouldn't expect her heart to go pitter-patter anymore. You have moved beyond the "lust" stage.

[Gigabitch]

Yeah, but "not attractive"? That's hurtful. That's bad.

[Sami09]

i think your partner may not be lushing after you anymore. but it must be hurtful that she waht she saying. I been with my bf for over 4 years and i still think he good looking and hott. do you still find her attractive.

[Steve2004]

You have moved beyond the "lust" stage.

lust is a big part of a relationship. it means you're still interested. not having a sexual attraction for your partner anymore is just a dead weight. thinking your partner is not attractive is a very big deal..and the fact that she said it means that it's an issue with her. i say she's rude and you need to drop her.

[vashti]

lust is a big part of a relationship. it means you're still interested.

Clearly, you aren't married.

[Ephemeral Dream]

I don't have one. Boohoo.

[Steve2004]

Clearly, you aren't married.

true. i'm still a teenager..so everything's pretty much based on looks for me still.

[Junket]

Clearly, you aren't married.

Seriously Vash, wouldn't you raise an eyebrow if your husband wasn't lusting for you all the time in the early stages of your relationship?

[vashti]

Yeah, probably. He still lusts after me.

I don't think women lust for as long, though. It probably has to do with having to wash their dirty underwear.

[Steve2004]

It probably has to do with having to wash their dirty underwear.

i draw the line there. i'll have grounds for divorce on this issue. cleaning boy's dirty underwear is NOT my forte

[Junket]

Yeah, probably. He still lusts after me.

Now that is love.