Is saving your virginity really worth it?

[Loverboymoye]

I'm still a virgin (yeah laugh)
But..
I'm trying to save myself for someone that I actually love.Thing is I go to parties regularly and I'm pretty sure that there are numerous occasions in which I was meant to get some, but I subtlety denied because of the above reason.

And sometimes I wonder...
Is it really worth it to save your virginity and undergo years of ridicule and people questioning my sexuality because I turn down sex?(Haha true story)

Girls: Would you rather have a virgin your first time?

Guys: Those of you who saved your virginity.. Was it worth it?

Please help, I'm about to explode

[vashti]

The right girl for you will be happy you saved yourself for her, but as for me? No virgins, thank you. Then again, I am not a kid anymore...

[Gribble]

That's up to you. Personally I placed no value on my virginity and I lost it the first chance I got. I don't regret it. Some people want that first time to be magical. Frankly, I think that's a load of bull. Sex is sex. It feels nice and that's about it. If you expect something incredible and sacred you're in for a letdown.

[Junket]

On the other note, while I do not regard my virginity as something "sacred", I'm mindful of the responsibility that comes with the act. I'm in no rush to lose it, nor am I "saving" it either.

When the time comes, is all.

[Loverboymoye]

Ok, so far... Saving your virginity;
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Anybody save theirs and think it was totally worth it?

[Tiay]

Girls: Would you rather have a virgin your first time?

yes. But that's a pointless question, because if a girl's worth anything, she wont care!

Guys: Those of you who saved your virginity.. Was it worth it?

yes.. but i'm not a guy. I think guys tend to feel a *ton* more pressure to know what to do, etc.

Please help, I'm about to explode

1. you could loose your virginity on some random one night stand. It'll suck because you'll be really nervous. but you got rid of your virginity so you're happy.

2. You could wait till you meet someone you really care about. It'll suck because you'll be really nervous. But you shared an incredibly special experience with her, so you're happy.

which type are you? up to you.

[The Great OV!!!]

I'm trying to save myself for someone that I actually love.

There is nothing wrong with being a virgin but man...that is just the wrong reason to do it for no matter how I look at it. Sorry but you should NEVER do anything for anyone..only for yourself...I don't care how selfish that sounds. Think about it, you are saving yourself for this girl...and what are the chances that she is doing the same for you?

If I was saving myself for someone and found that perfect person later but she was not saving herself for me I would be royally pissed, and it is not like she can say something or care if I did not save myself since she didn't either.

[Tiay]

saving yourself needn't be a selfless thing. There can be a big intrinsic reward in it. I think most things you do in life, even selfless things, are in fact selfish on a certain level.

anyway, it depends what kinda person you are. Having sex with someone I don't love would never enter my mind, especially not for the first time. But that's just me.

so the answer to the question, as usual, is: it depends.

[anachronistic]

NO

JUST **** HER BRAINS OUT AND BE DONE WITH IT

mkay?

[The Great OV!!!]

depends on what?

[Tiay]

if you're type 1 or 2, or any of the countless other types I probably missed.

[stevo032]

Think about it, you are saving yourself for this girl...and what are the chances that she is doing the same for you?

If I was saving myself for someone and found that perfect person later but she was not saving herself for me I would be royally pissed, and it is not like she can say something or care if I did not save myself since she didn't either.

I think that in some shape or form, if by chance two people were to be "saved" for eachother, that sharing this de-labeling experience that can bring the two people somewhat closer together emotionally.

[Loverboymoye]

I think that in some shape or form, if by chance two people were to be "saved" for eachother, that sharing this de-labeling experience that can bring the two people somewhat closer together emotionally.

Yeah thats like what I think, but it doesn't seem like thats the truth according to what the others are saying...

Your only 16 Stevo so I'm guessing your a virgin as well, maybe these other people are right..?

[The Great OV!!!]

I think that in some shape or form, if by chance two people were to be "saved" for eachother, that sharing this de-labeling experience that can bring the two people somewhat closer together emotionally.

Yea, if BOTH did it.

[anachronistic]

saving virginity for religious purposes is nonsensical. i'm referring to all my christian friends.

they talk about it like it's a bad thing. these are kids that are going to be in college next fall. scary? yes.

one reason i've got my only little unitarian religion.