How to read a woman on a "break"

[surfnsand]

Ok ladies,

My GF is taking "time" (after 2 years).

she feels it's something she "owes herself" after being in a long-term relationship (marriage) before me.

I WENT SILENT.

She called after 3 long, tough weeks.
(we tried it once before and it was too much
and she only could do a week).

She said she loves me. knows it's real....time helped.
but did not mention any plan beyond working on her 'things"
She texted a few times.

I HAVE NOT CONTACTED HER ONCE. AND STILL HAVE NOT.
just not enough to work with...

Honestly, I know you want me to be nice and fair, but....
How can I reach her.
Been in this situation....?
Tough love. Soft love.
And how do i read her signals?
Do i contact her?
Say what?

She has gone silent for couple weeks and i'm...worried.

[clynn]

I don't get it.

You're on a "break"........have been for three weeks? And she has contacted you once? But you didn't make any plans, only that she says she loves you.........

That's tough.

It is like you should treat it as a "break-up" unless she is willing to give you either a timeline or a commitment.

[surfnsand]

yes, it's an undetermined thing.
that's why i did NOT respond.
last time (a few months ago) she called i picked up and she was in tears....

this time i did not.

She said she knew now that the "love was real" and txted me when my favorite movie was on late...but since she broke up i think i'm owed more.
wouldn't you say?
...unless she is just testing waters after almost a month to see how i am/feel/act...

she is doing this she says because she had "never been single" (married for 10 years...)

[Junket]

If you don't respond to her...how do you expect she continue to contact you?

Am I missing something here?

[clynn]

I think you should respond to her with a clear idea of what it is that YOU want.

[surfnsand]

I was broken up with....and so feel a bit wary.

my silence is i guess my message:

What i'm trying to say is "i am not a yo-yo. you did this once before and a couple random calls with no plan does not feel like an open door..."

do you think her call was enough?

ever been in her position?

[Junket]

Silence can mean anything.

Why don't you actually try actually telling her what you just told us?

[clynn]

I was broken up with....and so feel a bit wary.

my silence is i guess my message:

What i'm trying to say is "i am not a yo-yo. you did this once before and a couple random calls with no plan does not feel like an open door..."

do you think her call was enough?

ever been in her position?

Well, I am guessing you are continuing with the silence either because
a) you hadn't quite figured out what you said above quite yet; or
b) you haven't wanted to have that conversation for fear of what the reply will be.

You could continue with the silence. And it might have an impact.

OR......you could come right out and ask the question you want to know the answer to. (the part you wrote above starting with "I am not a yo-yo..."

You know her and your relationship best.

[surfnsand]

thanks.

i'll weigh this today.

if i was a kid, might not be as much at stake...