She says she looks at me as a big brother.... Ouch

[NeoSeminole]

alright fine, then ask her out since you know her so much better than us. I'm curious to hear what her parents think of an 18 yr old wanting to date their 15 yr old.

[Gigabitch]

Maybe they think he'll be more responsible about respecting her wishes, or able to deal with the consequences if not.

[vashti]

I don't think I would allow it. I would have to have a REALLY good reason to allow it. I wouldn't be worried about emotional maturity, necessarily, but more about sexual maturity.

[King Zarathu]

Dude, everybody here is trying to show you all of the red flags, and you're just ignoring everything. Can't you see it why it isn't a good idea to pursue this chick?

[BlueRaven]

I'm curious to hear what her parents think of an 18 yr old wanting to date their 15 yr old.

As am I.

Maybe they think he'll be more responsible about respecting her wishes, or able to deal with the consequences if not.

Thank you, Giga. You seem to be the only one remotely on my side.

I don't think I would allow it. I would have to have a REALLY good reason to allow it. I wouldn't be worried about emotional maturity, necessarily, but more about sexual maturity.

What would constitute a REALLY good reason? Also, would you care to elaborate on the issue of sexual maturity?

Dude, everybody here is trying to show you all of the red flags, and you're just ignoring everything. Can't you see it why it isn't a good idea to pursue this chick?

I can see how it's not an ideal situation. I can't justify giving up on it altogether, however.

[vashti]

What would constitute a REALLY good reason? Also, would you care to elaborate on the issue of sexual maturity?

A really good reason? Honestly, I can't think of one, but I was allowing for the possibility that unforseen situations may arise.

About sexual maturity: I believe a 15 year old girl MAY be as emotionally mature (or more so) than an 18 year old boy, but as for sexual development, boys are generally much more advanced. 18 year old boys are usually CRAVING sex, but girls are normally merely curious. Sure, they use sex as a way to gain power over boys, but I don't think most of them actually CRAVE much more than affection. Obviously, there are exceptions. You guys are only a few years from your sexual peak, wheras girls won't hit their until they are somewhere in their 30s.

[Zach]

Even if you do date her and things turn out terrible I hope you are mature enough to learn what you should. Good Luck either way.

[BlueRaven]

About sexual maturity: I believe a 15 year old girl MAY be as emotionally mature (or more so) than an 18 year old boy, but as for sexual development, boys are generally much more advanced. 18 year old boys are usually CRAVING sex, but girls are normally merely curious. Sure, they use sex as a way to gain power over boys, but I don't think most of them actually CRAVE much more than affection. Obviously, there are exceptions. You guys are only a few years from your sexual peak, wheras girls won't hit their until they are somewhere in their 30s.

At this point, I'm not craving anything. For whatever reason, and I can't begin to explain why, my sex drive has gone almost totally dormant since I've gotten somewhat involved with this girl. It's weird, because she's very attractive, and it's never happened to me before. My best guess is that I'm so intrigued with everything else about her, I've just pushed those desires aside.

[Mathias]

Sorry, I can't trust you. You don't even know her, and that's something that's different with every person.

At that age, it really isn't.

[dreamflyer]

hey man, check ur pm's

[sazzya1987]

I have to say I agree with many other people on this one with the 'age issue'. Its best to wait until she is legally an adult before trying to persue a relationship with her. It can turn out to be a bit of trouble.

[Prodigal]

I think that someone can be mature at an age like 15-16, at least in relation to others. I know some 16 year olds who are more mature than many 19-20 year olds. It is uncommon, but they are there. There are exceptions.

Like everyone has been saying, the 'big brother' thing is not good for you and it may be hard to overcome. You're not going to listen to advice that goes against what you want to do [which is to pursue her], so I'm not going to say any of that. I just wish you luck, and whatever happens, whether good or bad, I hope you learn from it. I think it is possible in your situation.. I'd invest more hope in it than most who have replied to this thread, but don't expect too much. That leads to huge disappointment if things go wrong.

[BlueRaven]

I think that someone can be mature at an age like 15-16, at least in relation to others. I know some 16 year olds who are more mature than many 19-20 year olds. It is uncommon, but they are there. There are exceptions.

Like everyone has been saying, the 'big brother' thing is not good for you and it may be hard to overcome. You're not going to listen to advice that goes against what you want to do [which is to pursue her], so I'm not going to say any of that. I just wish you luck, and whatever happens, whether good or bad, I hope you learn from it. I think it is possible in your situation.. I'd invest more hope in it than most who have replied to this thread, but don't expect too much. That leads to huge disappointment if things go wrong.

I couldn't agree more with your first statement. This girl is at least as, if not more mature than most girls my own age. I've known her long enough now to be very confident of this. It is uncommon, but not totally unrealistic, as many others here seem to believe.

Thanks for your support, by the way.

[King Zarathu]

I couldn't agree more with your first statement. This girl is at least as, if not more mature than most girls my own age. I've known her long enough now to be very confident of this. It is uncommon, but not totally unrealistic, as many others here seem to believe.

Thanks for your support, by the way.

Why are you only taking in the shit that serves in your favor and rejecting the shit that you don't like?

Saying 'I'm not, Lol;' in response is considered taking in the shit that serves in your favor and rejecting the shit that you don't like, by the way.

[BlueRaven]

Why are you only taking in the shit that serves in your favor and rejecting the shit that you don't like?

Saying 'I'm not, Lol;' in response is considered taking in the shit that serves in your favor and rejecting the shit that you don't like, by the way.

I'm considering everything. I don't think I've "rejected" anyones information, except for perhaps Neo, who implied that I was immature. The stuff I don't necessarily agree with, I respond to with my own reasoning. Why does that bother you so much?

Oh, and come on Z, have you ever seen me use that laughter abbreviation in one of my posts? I doubt it, because I can never recall insulting my own intelligence to that extent.