She says she looks at me as a big brother.... Ouch

[Gigabitch]

Well, most people don't have any information in them to begin with. So I can't blame you there.

I'll be seeing her again Friday night.

Plenty of time to decide what to do. My advice: Tell her the only person you feel brotherly toward is your own brother.

[BlueRaven]

Plenty of time to decide what to do. My advice: Tell her the only person you feel brotherly toward is your own brother.

My problem with telling her then arises with the fact that where I'll be seeing her is at a high school football game. Not necessarily the most romantic atmosphere. However, I guess it will get the job done.

As for the "brotherly" line, I'm going to try to come up with something a bit more, memorable.

[Gigabitch]

As long as incest is not mentioned, I'm sure you'll do just fine.

[Mathias]

I take it you're seeing her with a bunch of people?

You need to up the flirting, at least.

[BlueRaven]

As long as incest is not mentioned, I'm sure you'll do just fine.

I don't think that'll be a problem....

I take it you're seeing her with a bunch of people?

You need to up the flirting, at least.

Will do. Really, our level of flirtation has increased each and every time we've been with each other.

[Gigabitch]

Will do. Really, our level of flirtation has increased each and every time we've been with each other.

Awesome. Maybe you'll be promoted to "Dirty Old Uncle" by Friday.

[BlueRaven]

Awesome. Maybe you'll be promoted to "Dirty Old Uncle" by Friday.

Haha, I'll do anything in my power to avoid that terrible circumstance. I'm hoping you were on the right track originally, that this whole thing is bait for me to reveal my true feelings for her. She's a smart girl, I wouldn't put it out of the realm of possiblity, I wouldn't even consider doing that.

[BlueRaven]

I just realized that perhaps I should have mentioned my direct response to her "big brother" comment. What I said in reply goes as follows, "Yeah I know what you mean. I really like talking to you, and spending time with you.. but we've still only known each other for a couple of weeks."

I don't know if this changes anyones opinion, just thought it might be useful to know.

[NeoSeminole]

BlueRaven says:

"From the night I met her I have thought that she is definitely as mature as I am."

I doubt she's mature for her age as much as you're probably immature for yours. Her parents will wonder what the hell an 18 yr old boy wants to do with a 15 yr old girl. I can't say I blame them.

[BlueRaven]

BlueRaven says:

"From the night I met her I have thought that she is definitely as mature as I am."

I doubt she's mature for her age as much as you're probably immature for yours. Her parents will wonder what the hell an 18 yr old boy wants to do with a 15 yr old girl. I can't say I blame them.

Wrong.

Girls my own age have always told me how much more mature they thought I was than other guys my same age. Let's get a couple of things straight, I didn't go out looking for a 15 year old. This just sort of, happened. She'll be 16 in the spring. Her parents are actually friends with my parents. The age difference had never been the an issue until she made that comment, which was out of context, from everything else she's been telling me the past couple weeks. Leading me to believe, that there's more to it than that.

[King Zarathu]

Some of you have been following my situation via another thread. For those that haven't I'll give a brief discription.

I met this girl, who's 15, about 2 1/2 weeks ago. She is a friend of my younger brothers, and has been for a year or two, but for whatever reason I had never met her until then. At one point, they had romantic interest in one another. However, neither of them acted on it and now both have moved on. Her and I really hit it off. We've known each other something like 19 days, and have talked or been with each other (through groups) in all but 2 or 3 of them. I feel myself gradually falling for her, and until tonight, was planning on asking her out within the next week or two.

Now to the problem. This past weekend we both realized that there was a high amount of talk going on behind our backs, through mutual friends, regarding our perceived "status". Tonight we talked about it, and obviously that left us to determine what our status actually was. That's when she made a comment that stung a bit. I had sent her a text message saying how we really think alike, but at this point I still look at us as friends. She responded with this, "Haha... we really do. I mean you are a great guy but for now a big brother type of great guy." Ouch...

I'm not one to get discouraged easily and this certainly won't do it. However, it definitely puts a bit of a slow down into effect on my plans for taking our relationship further. Obviously, I'm a few years older than her and that makes it easier for her to have that perception, or at least claim to have it. Really, I have never for one moment looked at her as a younger sister. From the night I met her I have thought that she is definitely as mature as I am. She knows I feel that way about her, because I've told her so.

Now I'm curious to know how everyone thinks I should proceed here. From my interpretation of that comment, she perceives me to be someone she'd be interested in a little down the road. I feel ready for a relationship with her now, but obviously if she doesn't then I'm stuck. Then again maybe I'm putting too much stock in one comment and should be putting more emphasis on our interactions face-to-face. Thoughts, please.

RED FLAG

You see that flag waving at you? Yes, it's waving AT YOU! The more you stick around, it'll start laughing at you.

Yeah, that flag? That flag is red. It is a red flag. Do you see it? If not, open your ****ing eyes.

[ThatFire1908]

You're 18 and she's 15. I think you should wait until she's at least 16 or 17 (depending on the age of consent in your state) before you try to pursue this whole relationship thing. You don't want her parents getting upset and charging you with statutory rape. I mean you said it yourself, everytime you're together, the flirtations get even stronger, and what does flirting lead to? Well SEX of course.
And I guess she see's you as her big brother, because you're much older than she is.

[TDurden]

She'll be 16 in the spring.

Translation: "she's 15 and a half dude, it's totally cool"

Look, honestly the age difference thing is an issue. You can talk all you want about maturity levels and make excuses but people grow exponentially during their teenage years which means that a 3 year age difference is pretty big. People change a lot during their time in highschool so starting a relationship with someone so much younger is bound to lead to some issues.

Secondly, if she was being literal and serious with that brother comment, then you're ****ed...unless she's from the deep south. Even then it probably still won't work out.

[Zach]

I have been through what you are going through right now. I met her when i was 18 and she was 15. It worked out great for a while. Let me tell you. I could of swore on my life that she was mature and she was wise for her age and was able to handle a relationship. Over 2 years later she is now almost 18 and im going to be 20 real soon and I am now single because she wants to be single. Its her senior year and she hasn't yet experienced the single highschool life style and so now in the end I am the one ****ed. I thought she was ready, I was actually convinced. But trust me when I say this, she is to young to handle a serious relationship. Find someone closer to your age who has been through a serious relationship or 2. If you do choose to move foward I think you will eventually regret it. Those are my 2 cents. Good luck.

[BlueRaven]

You're 18 and she's 15. I think you should wait until she's at least 16 or 17 (depending on the age of consent in your state) before you try to pursue this whole relationship thing. You don't want her parents getting upset and charging you with statutory rape. I mean you said it yourself, everytime you're together, the flirtations get even stronger, and what does flirting lead to? Well SEX of course.
And I guess she see's you as her big brother, because you're much older than she is.

The age of consent in Maryland is 16, but as far as I can see that really isn't going to matter since she isn't the type of girl who is going to want to do anything, probably until marriage.

Secondly, if she was being literal and serious with that brother comment, then you're ****ed...

I've become rather convinced that comment was just bait to try to get me to reveal my feelings for her.

But trust me when I say this, she is to young to handle a serious relationship.

Sorry, I can't trust you. You don't even know her, and that's something that's different with every person.

An update on all this. Due to circumstances somewhat out of my control this weekend, I didn't get a good opprotunity to tell her how I feel, or to ask her out. I did find out something a bit interesting, however. All of her friends, both guys and girls, are under the impression that her parents won't allow her to date yet. That is what she has always told them. When the subject came up a couple weeks ago, she told me that she had never asked her parents that question, and that she thought it would depend on the guy. I can't help wondering why she would tell this to just me, if she isn't really interested in me in a romantic way.