I broke up with my girl but I still love her

[brokenproblem]

Hi, The problem is that I broke up with my girlfriend because we were together since a long time and we did nothing together because I was shy. And now I realized that she really counts for me. But I didn't talk to her since a year and I don't know what to do.

[Gigabitch]

Are you just missing her because you're too shy to get something going with someone new or because you actually miss her?

[Borealis]

That's nothing a little more confidence and honesty involved won't fix. Next time you talk to her just tell her so.

Borealis

[brokenproblem]

I miss her a lot.

[King Zarathu]

I miss her a lot.

Quit your bitching, this is a place to ask for advice, not sound like a pussy. Borealis gave you some badass advice that is worth a lot, just take it and be on your way.

[Gigabitch]

Quit your bitching, this is a place to ask for advice, not sound like a pussy. Borealis gave you some badass advice that is worth a lot, just take it and be on your way.

Oh, c'mon. We ALL sound like a bunch of pussies about half of the time.

This IS the place to sound like a pussy. On the phone with her is NOT the place to sound like a pussy. Man up, call her up, and tell her you miss her. Just like that.

[Junket]

Giga has a point there Zath.

What better place to be real, 'cept where nobody has to see your face?

[King Zarathu]

Touché.

Brokenproblem, I apologize if I sounded harsh.

I sound like a pussy.

[vashti]

Actually, it was rather mature of you to back down...

Brokenproblem - maybe you should try calling her just to see how her life is going (unless you guys had a difficult breakup). She might have a boyfriend by now, or she might not. You won't know unless you ask.

[King Zarathu]

Actually, it was rather mature of you to back down...

Well, I should've included this for the slow:

[Borealis]

Don't ask about the boyfriend, brokenproblem. Just show her you are everything and more than she could ever want, even if she theoretically is with someone. The reason for this is because immediately when you acknowledge a boyfriend in tow, you'll set self-limiting beliefs for yourself. Don't bestow such a hindrance on your thinking process and just take what is rightfully yours.

People often sit around thinking about something for so long, when all they have to do is get up and seize action. Much of the complications of our lives can easily be disposed of by actually just doing it without mentally calibrating it beforehand. This should be a constant when dealing with love and relationships.

Borealis