No Confidence = No Relationship

[Someguy03]

The last 2 girls I have been interested in (both best friends, literally) have openly told me that they would prefer not to have a relationship with me because I lack the confidence they have. They are the kind of girls who would go jump into a random crowd of people and start singing and dancing and freaking everybody out without a seconds hesitation. Let me clarify that I'm not one of those kids who goes and sits in a hole and runs away when people say Hi. Actually, most people think that I am too confident and too open, but I am nothing compared to these girls.

One very key point in me liking them is this confidence they have. It makes me more confident and crazy, which I enjoy alot. The problem is that, well, most of the time I'm not confident enough for them. And I notice that I end up almost boring them every once in awhile. Any tips on gaining more of this confidence?

[vashti]

I think these girls are confusing "confidence" with being an extrovert and having a high need to be the center of attention.

Do you feel confident? Do you like who you are? If so, then ignore these girls. They just aren't the right girls for you.

[Converse]

Kinda running off from what Vashti has said.

She sounds like one of those 'Look at me, Look at me" types. You're probably best not going there to be honest, you seem like a cool guy it's their problem not yours, I wouldn't worry about it. You shouldn't have to change your self just so it can suit them.

[sexypete]

These girls just like to party a lot. This is not something for everyone. You may want to go after these girls with some training. But why go through the hassle? There are other girls which suit you more. Pick them.

[Gigabitch]

Do you really want your girlfriend to be somebody who jumps into a crowd and starts freaking everybody out? They both sound obnoxious. Where's the attraction?

[Am_I_Crazy]

What you described isn't confidence.

That's what I would call "attention-whores."

[Venacava]

It sounds like they are more extroverted, it's not about confidence. They may be confident in big crowds, but that's not what confidence is about. If you know what I'm saying. They may just be a little more lively than you are.
Do you want tips on being more confident or on being more like them?

[King Zarathu]

I hate girls like that. Reminds me of Jordyn.

Slap both of them... twice.


LOLOL BAGGIJ

[Gigabitch]

I hate girls like that. Reminds me of Jordyn.

Slap both of them... twice.


LOLOL BAGGIJ

Yup. There it is. I thought I smelled an attack of Jordynitis coming on...