How Can You Get Over Jealousy

[Sami09]

Have anyone ever experience jealous in a relationship. Does anyone know how

to get over it. If its her gf or bf going to a club or bar or just hangin out with

his friends. How do u guy over jealous cause i want to get over it.

[vashti]

I think that people usually outgrow it, but in the meantime, you will have to learn to live with uncomfortable feelings without acting on them. In other words, you may feel extremely jealous, but you need not flip out about it. Just keep it to yourself. It gets easier with practice.

[Sami09]

Yes i know i need to get over the jealous cause i been with my bf for over 3

years. Whenever he goes to bar i get jealous. I know girls think he hot.

[vashti]

Is he genuinely trustworthy? If so, then suck it up and keep it to yourself. If you aren't sure he can be trusted, then consider your jealousy a warning sign.

[Gigabitch]

Yes, please remember that your jealousy is not his problem.

Maybe you need to work on your issues with other women. Do you have any female friends? Do you trust women?

[Sami09]

thanks for the advice. I want to get over jealously that all i am sayin.

[Ellynn]

Yes, I have been jealous in a relationship. Yes, it does suck! Hard to control, definately.

But one main thing in a relationship you need is trust. If you don't have that, you don't have anything at all! So, your just gonna have to keep in mind that other people will find him attractive and will flirt with him no matter what. But keep in mind, its YOU he's coming back to and wants to be with. He has a right to go out to places or bars. I mean its always nice to be able to hang out with the guys and kick back. If you put your foot down about that, hes gonna think your controlling and paranoid, you don't want that!

The only way I would be suspicious is if hes giving you a reason to be jealous. Like you finding girls numbers in his pockets etc.

Do you have any of your friends you can actually hang out with and go out with? Maybe then, that would take the focus off of him going out so much. Its important to have time to kick back and hang out with other people as well. Then maybe you will understand how fun it can be to have a ladies night, and you won't be thinking so much about what he is doing, and just learn to trust that when hes out, he will be doing the right thing.

[Sami09]

Thanks for the good advice you are right i need to let him do his thing. i have one really good best friend that a girl. how do you guys feel if your bf goes to strip clubs how can i never get jealous cause of that. my bf havent been in a while if he does go it would be in the summer cause of the weather.

[Ellynn]

Guys do that sort of thing occasionally. Its a guy thing. I mean it isn't like hes in a strip joint every weekend. Just like some guys sometimes look at porn.

It really should be no threat because they do not actually know these people. Its just guys joking around having a good time. But there is a fine line, and if its crossed, then theres something to be concerned about.

[Sami09]

what do u classy as crossin the line. lap dance. rub and tub? or is that

normal guys thing. i know porn all guys look at.

[Ellynn]

what do u classy as crossin the line. lap dance. rub and tub? or is that

normal guys thing. i know porn all guys look at.

Are you saying your bf pays for lap dances? What is rub and tub exactly?

Anyways, if a bunch of the guys go once in a great while to a strip joint to just hang out etc and just look at, but not touch, the girls. I think thats pretty normal. I mean we all look at people of the opposite sex right? Its human nature, but doesn't mean we are gonna act on it. Say that even if one of his buddies buys him a lap dance just for sh*ts and giggles one time, then again I wouldn't be worried. Its not like those ladies are out looking for a relationship. Most of them do it for the money.

But, if hes paying for lap dances for himself on a regular basis, then I think you need to worry. Or, if he's in these strip joints like a majority of the week or like EVERY weekend, then yeah, I would be worried.

[Sami09]

my boy have been to one of those clubs and trust and totally love him. Some time

a girl just got to get worried. Even if we been together for over 3 years doesnt

mean you just stop there are so many pretty women out there.

[Gigabitch]

The world is full of attractive men, too. Are you trustworthy? If you are, then you should use your own feelings as an example.