Question for (very) single people

[blackiesharley]

Does this often happen to you?

When you're either single or have just broken up with a S/O and you go out, doesn't matter where, could be a mall, a club, a concert, a coffee shop or even just walking down the street do you feel like you're the only one who is single?

Everybody else seems to have someone on their arm, a partner, laughing, smiling, enjoying life. Seems like everybody on the planet has someone except you?

Just curious if I'm the only one that feels like that...

[vashti]

Even married people experience feelings of isolation. It is a part of the human condition.

[bluesummer]

Nope. I feel like that all the time. Then again, I turn down offers to date so I guess I put myself in my lonely condition. It does kind of suck on holidays.

[blue]

just think when you are single its just you as lomg as you are ok with you its alright

[Ellynn]

Yes, I feel like that sometimes. But, I have become rather selective about who I date. I decided that being single and alone is better then dealing with another bad relationship right now.

I figure I have time yet, and if I meet someone worthwhile I do, and if not, then oh well.

[Gigabitch]

I'm actually becoming aware of how many guys are on the make- it seems like everywhere I look, theres another single guy. Maybe it's just summer...

[Prodigal]

Even though probably more than half of my good friends are single, sometimes I still feel like what you described. I really only get that feeling hard during certain times like Christmas, Valentine's Day, etc. But I have my friends with me, so I'm fine.. for the most part. It's when I'm by myself somewhere and I see all these couples where I start to get down about it, and it affects me. But like Ellynn said, I'm selective. And I probably put it on myself because I don't ask girls out often. But then again, it's because I'm very selective.

[Illusional]

haha it's not really that at all. when you're single and you just got out of a relationship, you are lonely. you go out to try to take your mind off of your ex, and when you see all these happy couples, it makes you sick. and why? because they stand out like a sore thumb. you want to be happy, but you're suffering because your heart is broken. it's not that everyone else is happily in a relationship, it's just that you're miserable with life in general.

raverboy

[blackiesharley]

haha it's not really that at all. when you're single and you just got out of a relationship, you are lonely. you go out to try to take your mind off of your ex, and when you see all these happy couples, it makes you sick. and why? because they stand out like a sore thumb. you want to be happy, but you're suffering because your heart is broken. it's not that everyone else is happily in a relationship, it's just that you're miserable with life in general.

raverboy

This is probably true.

[Ellynn]

Very good point Illusional. I mean yeah I could have had several relationships since my last, but the point is I'm still hurting. I'm to the point where I just don't want to deal. I have enough drama going on with my moms health and worrying about her so much etc. So life itself sometimes just sucks. I feel like something is missing or that Im missing out on good times.
I'm just reminded of it when seeing other happy couples together. I miss a relationship, but not the people I was in a relationship with. Thats probably why I'm so selective. I'm sick of the neverending cycle of the same stuff repeating itself over and over. And deep down I'm afraid it will always end up like that.

[AmbroseVB]

I know exactly what you feel....right after I broke up with my last bf I thought that I was the only person alive who didn't have a bf. Now that it has been a while I am starting to feel the same way again. Either everyone has a bf or they have someone that is interested in them and I just feel left out in the cold. It sucks but I think it will pass.

[blackiesharley]

I miss a relationship, but not the people I was in a relationship with. Thats probably why I'm so selective. I'm sick of the neverending cycle of the same stuff repeating itself over and over. And deep down I'm afraid it will always end up like that.

That is exactly what I'm going through right now. Sorta. I have a wonderful lady that is the girl of my dreams (see my other posts) but I'm scared shitless that it will blow up in my face. I think she is too.

And when we're not together (it's a 'semi' L/D R/S) I try and go out not to meet someone else but to hear a band, have a drink or something and just makes me really sad seeing all these couples. Why can't life just be simple?

And I don't want to be the one that blows this out of fear. I can't make her pick up the tab for what other women have done to me. A netural third party would look at our relationship at this point and say 'Blackie, you've got it made, it's going great, abiet slowly.'

Yet, that fear factor still remains...

[blacksun]

I dont know, i guess i get that sometimes when im having a down day and it really feels like i have nobody to share with. It makes me wounder if I should be less picky or more willing to go for girls who I dont really have any interest in, but I usualy conclude that that wouldent make me any happier then I am now.