Porno issue

[nyclady32]

I think my boyfriend is obsessed with pornsights. I caught him downloading, and found out that he has a lot in his computer. I know men love porn, but why would you do that when your girlfriend is there. After this whole thing, I feel insecure. Why do men love porn? Is it me, because i thought our sex life was great. I don't know what to do, I just feel like shit. Now it kinda bothers me that he is looking and enjoying other naked ladies. I think it bothers me more now that i caught him and found a good amount on his computer.

[sfalexi]

Why do men love porn?

Cause porn is cool!

Now it kinda bothers me that he is looking and enjoying other naked ladies. I think it bothers me more now that i caught him and found a good amount on his computer.

I really wouldn't think TOO much of it. Almost EVERY guy, even married ones, have some 'special' video tapes somewhere in the house. The reason he has so much on his computer is because it's FREE!!!!!!!!! I would start to worry when he starts BUYING tons of porn. Cause then it's a REAL problem.

To sum up . . . men like porn cause it's cool. He has a lot cause it's free and easily acceptable. And I wouldn't worry about it if he still continues to adore you and is still interested in you. But you can't be around ALL the time, so for those days where he can't see you and is feeling . . . . 'needy', he needs a backup plan.

'Chuck' Brown

[Illusional]

i feel the same way. my computer has a HUGE amount of porn.. why?? because like alex said, it's free and practically given to me daily in my email account. now damn, only if they would send out some free samples of viagra.. that would get the party started. raverboy

[Iron__Metal]

Not entirely the case...Without a lie I can say that I don't enjoy porn really, I think its kinda degrading really...Well then again those people WANT to have sex with hundreds of people they don't even really know...Woe is Earth...

[squirrley]

its also the visual stimulation for them. I think men are more visually stimulated for sex, where women get stimulated mentally.

I wouldnt take it personally. Its not a big deal unless you find your sex life going down the tubes.

And yes-it is cool nowadays because its free.
why dont you ask him to watch a flick with you?

[Pretender]

nyclady32 don't worry about the porn I know it makes you insecure but that's not what hes trying to do to you. He's not looking at the porn because you aren't a fine lookin' lady. He's looking at it because you're not there to "help" him out. Squirrleys right ask him to watch a flick with you, you'll like it!

The thing is you feel he shouldn't be looking at other women when he has you. And it's a totally valid argument if that's how you feel. BUT honey the chances of you finding a guy that doesn't enjoy porn are slim to NONE. You just have to realize you're still #1 in his eyes and learn to enjoy the porn with him. I was having problems with it to a couple years ago. It makes you feel you're not pretty enough or don't have a nice body when in reality you're a much nicer girl than the porno chicks so unless he meets up with one of them just go with the flow.

You should download your own porn and save it to your computer and please yourself. If nothing you will feel like you are getting revenge and maybe even like it and you'll download some more and have some fun. This is what got me over it. I liked it too so I couldn't fault him for it.

[Fawn]

I think roughly over 80% of men have some type of porn either on there computer, video or magazines. Hell, even I have one porno mag. lmao!!

I do think that yes, he should not be playing around with porn infront of you. Maybe, you just need to tell him that. Its nothing to feel bad about, its one of those male natural urges that women will never understand. lol

[dazedandconfused]

oh, i just deleted all the pron from my computer. i think i had roughly around 2-2.5 gigabytes of porn videos (some were pretty good!). i got sick of it and got rid of it. didn't feel bad making that decision, it was just sort of "ah, the heck with it". i was finally disgusted.

plus you gotta remember, the visual images in your mind will stay! they stick and sometimes it's hard to shake them off later on. this could impact your future - from the way you treat your lady in bed to the certain preferences you acquire from porn movies and actors.

i know ladies are very sensitive when it comes to us NOT giving them undivided attention, and i believe that when girls say they're ok with their bf's watching porn, they've just accepted it as something inevitable, thus lowering their expectations. i think it's up to us, guys, to respect our ladies and not make them feel miserable, unworthy, "less sexy than briana banks", and to not make them say to themselves "oh, well, i guess he does love me, he just can't stop watching that stuff and, i guess, it's not that big a deal..." but why does that leave them with a stamp of sadness on their faces? i think we, guys, have to step up.

when my gf and i talked about our masturbation in private (we both do that occasionally), we didn't have a hard time understanding that we need it just because we both really like sex. the big issue was "you probably jerk off thinking about them big-boobs-tight-bootie bimbos". reassuring that the only person i fantasize about when masturbating was my gf made her feel very somfortable. she does the same - wants only me and fantasizes only about me. this makes our love for each other grow stronger, and it gives my girlfriend more confidence (ooh, i like that!) instead of making her insecure (a turn-off in girls). and i can honestly say i've never fantasized about anyone else but her.

[Illusional]

when it comes to porn... magazines just don't do it for me anymore. boring.

raverboy

[Pretender]

This may be me being jealous but Briana Banks and jenna Jamison have nothing on all you sweet innocent ladies. They may be good to jerk off too but when it comes to loving someone a guy isn't going to give them a second thought. No worries.

[Illusional]

personally i think they are ugly. they are just a couple of blondes which huge tits. i like real breasts a whole lot better. raverboy

[BillyGalbreath]

i love little tits - my fav saying is 'no bigger than a handful and no smaller than a mouthful' hehehe

[Illusional]

yeah, i was watching "i want a famous face" the serious on mtv. well the last episode, there was that girl sha that wanted to get a boob job to look more like pam anderson. she had a photoshot with playboy and they stated that the new image that they are looking for is "the real thing". however she was really lucky that they picked her for a different photoshot. i just feel that fake boobs are a thing of the past, like a fad. raverboy

[IceQueen]

Maybe he's looking for new ideas.