Update on the jerk boyfriend...

[meguin]

It appears that he's only a jerk by accident. I finally told him over the weekend about everything that had been bothering me. ( I wouldn't have worked up the nerve to just tell him out of the blue, unfortunately, he has noticed that I'd been upset and asked me what was up.)
So we're on a break now. In all honesty, I really love him and I want to get back together with him, and thus the reason for the post. The two of us determined that we would try being just friends for a while to see if we make better friends that boyfriend/girlfriend. He has told me that he doesn't care if I go out with other people, and even said that he didn't care if I have sex with other people! (Something we haven't done since I'm waiting until marriage). The main question is, do you guys think it would completely blow my chances with him if I were to take him up on his offer of being allowed to go on dates with other people?

[xwfuro]

well i know i had sadi that to my ex girlfriend. and truthfully when she did take me up on that i was deep down pissed/upset but i did tell her she could so i got over it. S

So no i dont think it would blow your chances but it might bother him some.

[alice]

no, it probably would increase your "chances" with him – but you don't want a guy like that, do you?
and what exactly do you mean by "… he's only a jerk by accident? how can someone accidentally be a jerk?

[meguin]

no, it probably would increase your "chances" with him – but you don't want a guy like that, do you?
and what exactly do you mean by "… he's only a jerk by accident? how can someone accidentally be a jerk?

Obviously it isn't going to increase the probability that we will get back together. I am more concerned with whether it will make the probability go to zero.
I guess by accident isn't really the best way to put it. It's that he wasn't intending on being a jerk, he had convinced himself that it wasn't that much of an issue to me.

[TAVS]

Sounds like this relationship is one for the history books.

[DutchBoY]

when a guy says to you: "have fun, sleep around" you should read, "thanks for the break and the excuse for me to sleep around". Forget about him.

[Converse]

I agree with DutchBoy's post.

[Mish]

Sounds like this relationship is one for the history books.

Mmm, yes, ancient history...

It always fascinates me to hear words like "I love him and I want to get back together" and "Should I start dating other people?" in the same paragraph

[clynn]

I would say that you should definitely go out with other people.

[Pears]

More often than not, couples that breakup can not get back together. If they do, it usually ends in disaster.

Forget about him.

[Lynx3]

More often than not, couples that breakup can not get back together. If they do, it usually ends in disaster.

Forget about him.

But what if it was an honest guy's mistake and he admits it?
(I'm not talking about this post, just in general)

[Pears]

But what if it was an honest guy's mistake and he admits it?
(I'm not talking about this post, just in general)

Mistake or not, they have already broken up.

[Cybog]

More often than not, couples that breakup can not get back together. If they do, it usually ends in disaster.

Forget about him.

But she LOVES HIM!!

[Pears]

lol Cybog.

Too bad, huh?

[Tone]

It appears that he's only a jerk by accident.

Give me a second to regain my composure... this shit is just too funny!

It always fascinates me to hear words like "I love him and I want to get back together" and "Should I start dating other people?" in the same paragraph

LOL! Foooooooooooooooooooor reaaaaaaaaals!!

when a guy says to you: "have fun, sleep around" you should read, "thanks for the break and the excuse for me to sleep around". Forget about him.

I agree.

I would say that you should definitely go out with other people.

I agree.

More often than not, couples that breakup can not get back together. If they do, it usually ends in disaster.

Forget about him.

I DISAGREE. (Just kidding- I agree)

But she LOVES HIM!!

LoL