Part 2, Now I'm getting mad!

[misombra]

Hugo, I'm not far behind you bro. I've been thinking of leaving this forum lately. The demonstration of stupidity here is overwhelming. I began posting at LF to offer a different perspective from the boring usual crap, but instead I'm greeted to comments like misogynist, racist, faggot, and immature. I feel like I'm back in high school. This forum is a joke with the exception of a few members (you know who you are). I will miss you Hugo.

ah, pobrecitos. nobody agrees with all the stupid things you have to say now you're sad and gonna leave. ah, that's really too bad.

not!

bye!

[vashti]

Hugo, I'm not far behind you bro. I've been thinking of leaving this forum lately. The demonstration of stupidity here is overwhelming. I began posting at LF to offer a different perspective from the boring usual crap, but instead I'm greeted to comments like misogynist, racist, faggot, and immature. I feel like I'm back in high school. This forum is a joke with the exception of a few members (you know who you are). I will miss you Hugo.

Aww, come on neo - you don't belong in the same category as Hugo! Yes, you've had your disagreements with posters, but I've never seen you stoop to such vulgarity to be heard. Anyway, we've all taken our share of hard knocks from other posters.

[bluesummer]

Hugo, I'm not far behind you bro. I've been thinking of leaving this forum lately. The demonstration of stupidity here is overwhelming. I began posting at LF to offer a different perspective from the boring usual crap, but instead I'm greeted to comments like misogynist, racist, faggot, and immature. I feel like I'm back in high school. This forum is a joke with the exception of a few members (you know who you are). I will miss you Hugo.

Neo, you complain about people bashing you, but then you constantly come on here and post shit like this and expect it not to be insulting to some? Be real buddy. And backing up losers like Hugo doesn't help your case much....because that guy is a genuine ass.

[RSK]

wow, i need to hang out in the dating section more often!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!




this is exciting!

[Rosebud]

Yep. I made my decision today. After the last phone call, I realized a lot. When i told him about all this he got angry and didn't let me talk, then he said he needed time and went out with his friends...Then he calls me upset becasue apparently he had talked to his friends about this and heard some things that upset him. But if he would have talked to me in the first place and heard me out he wouldn't hae gotten so upset. Not to mention it proved to me that he would rather listen to his friends and hear what they have to say about it all instead of talking to me in the first place....which is a big red flag.

So I'm going to my interviews and I'm going to go back to work. I ahve to figure out what I will do with my daughter while i do go back to work so I can afford day care and a place to live. I don't have all that worked out becasue I ahve run into dead ends with that part but I will get through it. I need to and I have to. If he decides later he wants to sit down and wrok through this and I want that as well at that time then fine, but I'm not going to put my daughter's best interest ont eh back burner until he does so.

[whaywardj]

A bit of anger is probably good about now, but note: I said "two" young people. If one has made the choice but the other hasn't, then the former is still "coming to grips" with latter's not.

That he'd empty her bank account is just wrong. And I do recall one of your very first posts here having to do with his choosing hunting over staying at home when he had the option to. Both indicate to me he's dubious long-term material, child or no.

On the other hand, your behaving in manner you know will raise ire is curious, at best.

I'd say you guys either need to make the commitment to one another, once and for all, or cut the cord. Right about now. Anything short of "either-all-the-way-or-not-at all" is just wasting both of your Time of Life.

FWIW

[clynn]

Rosebud, I'm so very sorry. I had hoped he would have calmed down by now.

What kind of friends are these?

I think the interview is exciting. Is it for a job? Or is it to prepare you to start lookign for a job? Either way, how cool.

Have you told him about this interview yet?

The reason I ask is maybe you might want to keep some of that to yourself until something more concete happens and then tell him. Having a job and making your own money will do loads for your self esteem and independence, regardless of what happens with him.

How old is your little one?

[Tone]

I think it's for the best, RoseB.

Do you know how many single moms there are out there? If they can do it, so can you. :]

PS>> sombra for president.

[alice]

Do you know how many single moms there are out there?

no. do you?

[Tone]

Yes, plenty.

[RSK]

the divorce rate in america is high compared to other countries, isn't this true?

[squirrley]

I was a single mom til recently, did it for 16 years, so YOU CAN DO IT!

Im sorry things arent turning out the way you had hoped, but its so great to see youre shifting your priorities! It will all be great in the end!!!

Goodluck!

[Rosebud]

After we had talked he called me again and said he had wanted to surprise me by coming home but the jeep had broke down and he was stranded half way home. Now, what I should have done was leave him there for him to call his friends and find his own way of handling this since he decided to leave us like he did (money, walking out, etc..). But knowing the insurance and registration is in my name and because I'm such a good person I went to help.

We have talked about a lot and are continuing to do so one step at a time. And we got a lot off of both of our chest's. He has said he wants to work things out with me no matter what it takes.

I ask him how much money he has left and he says none. Apparently he decided he wanted to go to the casino the night we got into the argument and lost most of it then. The rest he spent when he was out with his friends. He burst out into tears and started crying (which he has never done in front me except when our daughter was born) and saying the only reason he did it was because he wanted to make me mad and hurt me. I didn't know what to say, aside from "it didn't hurt me, But you weren't thinking of anyone but yourself, and that's NEEDS to change NOW."

Now as much as I love him and I'm happy we can work things out, I'm distgusted knowing why he did it and where his thought process was the whole time this was going on. There's other things I'm worried about as well but I have to deal with them one at a time.

He didn't find out about the interview until today and was totally surprised and a little taken back that i got things in line so quick. But nothing has changed there..I'm still doing everything I decided whether he's around or not!

[clynn]

Holy. What a switch. Guess it is somewhat like you'd suspected, he'd calm down after a while.

I'm happy to hear. It always makes me sad to hear about people splitting up. And makes me sad in particular when they have children together.

In spite of your problems you two certainly seem to love each other, and always say it to each other, so that is nice. Even when you're angry.

Good for you, though - keeping up with your own personal plans. I think it helps a woman to have something going on outside the home. Will keep you focused on something else and will give you a break. Not that staying home and taking care of your girl isn't the most important thing a person can do - cuz it is! So maybe just little breaks to keep you sane! And with a little bit of pocket money.

All the best, keep us posted.

[alice]

I'm still doing everything I decided whether he's around or not!

good, stick to that and good luck to you!