Is it ok?

[Asip4u]

theotherguy, nobody can tell you what to do. All we can do is tell you what usually happens when you're in different situations. If a girl is interested in you as a friend, it rarely works out in other ways simply because she's more comfortable that way and also because she doesn't see you as bf material (for reasons mentioned above).

Should you tell her that you had feelings for her? Why? You think that will change anything? Most times you can read what a woman thinks by just looking into her eyes and/or by paying close attention to her actions. Man up! There are plenty of girls out there so don't waste your time on this one.

[Bluevetteracer]

But do you think in any time in the future that I should tell her that I had feelings for her?

IF and when the time is right, maybe.

This would be when she is single, and gives you some suggestion that she is interested in you romantically. Trust me unless you are retarded, you should be able to pick up on a sign. Don't sit and pine for her and the next time she says hi in the hallway you say, "That's IT, THERE'S MY SIGN".

She will drop you notes, email you, smile at you, sit by you, send her friends to interrogate you etc.

You must act like nothing happened between you, don't go out of your way to run into her, you must be a creature of mystery. Go on with your life, date other women, etc.

Sitting and waiting for her or saying shit like "I will wait until you love me" is pathetic, and she will be out screwing a guy like me, in the back of my Chevelle.

Why you ask?

Because in high school I did not care, and still do not care about rejection. If some girl laughed in my face, or had no interest in me, I MOVED ON. So after school, I had 2-3 girls that would pile into my hot rod, and I would fire that beast up, and rumble that monster cammed motor through the parking lot on my way to give rides home. BUT what every other girl saw as they were waiting for the bus, or walking to their Yugo was ME, and 3 girls laughing and having a good time. Especially on Friday. My standard 600 HP under the hood, 4 on the floor and a 5th under the seat. These girls need not be super models, just girls. Other girls will be jelous.

The point is, what is attractive to women is not you pining your love away in some pathetic manner; making her the only girl to make you happy in the world. Instead she needs to see you as exciting, fun, creative, spontaneous and not depending on HER to make you stop crying.

After a while, I had girls lined up to get into my car, and to date Friday night.

Things may have changed but Friday and Saturday were ALWAYS date nights. In high school I always had dates for these 2 nights. Even if I was going to hang out with the guys, I had some girl with me.

[theotherguy0123]

Hey here's an little update on my sitch, well so I thought I was over her over the weekend, but when I saw her again...I just felt so nervous, so obvious I wasn't over her. Well I don't think I'm going to see her anymore after next week because the semester's over and we were in a half-year course, and I think she might have quit the club that we were in...I know what's needed to be done, get over her, but I just can't stop thinking about her...please, slap me, tell me I'm a ****ing idiot, but I just feel so helpless and I just can't help it right now...

[Rosebud]

Good job Asip!!! I agree with you!

Don't feel helpless, you liked someone you didn't really know that well. There will be tons of others that you will get a lot farther with and really enjoy. Don't stress too much and just get out and find someone else to focus your attention on who doesn't have a BF.