I am only 22 and have just recently got a new girlfriend, she is everything i could ever ask for and want, she is absolutly amazing! But for thepast two days i haven't been able to have sexual intercourse with her because my erection keeps going down just before we reach this stage. I have no problem getting an erection its just keeping it up so that we can have sex i am finding a problem. It is really starting to get to me, i have booked an appointment with the doctor to see if they can help me.
This girl is the sweetest girl in the world ever but i am scared taht she may leave me if this keeps on happening. I have told her that it is not her at all, she is BEAUTIFUL and i know that the problm is not because i don't fancy her. I do suffer from anxiety a lot and worry excessively about my sexual performance but I don't know what to do and my self-esteem is starting to fade drastically!
Someone please help me/ let me know if you are suffereing from the same things.
Jaidee
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10-01-06, 07:03 PM #1
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Male Erectile Disorder
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it COULD be anxiety , do you masturbate ? because it could be that , maybe your thing is very large and it takes alot of blood pumping for it to stand up ... i dont really know as this hasent happened to me .
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10-01-06, 11:24 PM #3
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Where did you meet her?
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10-01-06, 11:27 PM #4
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If you are able to achieve an erection at other times, your problem is not physical. It is probably anxiety, and it is made worse by worrying about whether or not you will be able to keep an erection.
I understand this is a very common problem, but since I am a woman, I haven't personally had to deal with it.
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I have known her for a long time, nearly three years, were at university together. I don't think that its a problem to do with blood flowing to my penis, i think that i have some insecurity & anxiety issues to deal with. As i have said she is the sweetest girl ever and we both really like each other, im just having this problem and it's really knocked my confidence for two.
James
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10-01-06, 11:35 PM #6
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Viagra!!!!!
"Oh Lord it's hard to be humble, when you're perfect in every way. I can't wait to look in the mirror, cause I get better loking each day. To know me is to love me, I must be a hell of a man. Oh Lord it's hard to be humble, but I'm doing the best that I can." Mac Davis
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10-01-06, 11:38 PM #7
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Wuh u bein an idiot for travis if u havent got anything positive to say dont say nything at all!!! Thankyou to the rest of you for all your comments, i rele appreciate them.
James
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10-01-06, 11:43 PM #8
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Who's travis? If you're talking to me; get off your high horse. Viagra is a positive comment. You dont have to be old to use the stuff. Plenty of youngin's use it just for the fun of it.
Originally Posted by James
I know you're pissy cause you can't get it up but that's not my fault."Oh Lord it's hard to be humble, when you're perfect in every way. I can't wait to look in the mirror, cause I get better loking each day. To know me is to love me, I must be a hell of a man. Oh Lord it's hard to be humble, but I'm doing the best that I can." Mac Davis
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10-01-06, 11:48 PM #9
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LOL he called you Travis?! wtf..
LoL
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Guess you haven't read many posts here, huh? Originally Posted by James
Relax. Just go down on her until you get your problem fixed; that is if you think she'd leave you for not performing.[URL=http://imageshack.us]
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this is completely psychological...it's NOT physical. your pisser works just fine.
you may need some counseling to treat whatever anxiety or psychological barrier is preventing you from keeping your erection. this may require some patience and cooperation from your gf. you should be able to work through this.
the other option, i imagine, would be viagra or a viagra alternative. it's supposed to work wonders.
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Sounds like a lack of comfort with her or yourself to me. Maybe you are nervous about performance, lasting long enough...etc. I have gone through something like this.
Anxiety is tough and really screws you up in so many ways.
You have to find a way to relax, sit back and enjoy it (sex). You may have to go through therapy (I did) or it may come to you on your own.
Anyway...sounds to me like it is all in your head. Chill and enjoy it!!!
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Try some other sex acts that dont' involve actual sex. Finger her, eat her, let her touch you, do anything that gets you hot but do NOT have sex. Give her the orgasms, and don't worry about yours. Tell her in advance that this is what you are doing, this completely takes the pressure off your ability to get hard. You can relax, and if you get excited, fine. You can jerk off, she can jerk you off- but no sex. After several times like this, you should get hard without a problem because the pressure is off. It can be frustrating, but if you keep trying to have sex, you're going to pressure your poor penis right into staying soft. Give yourself a break and do other things- the sex will be hot later.
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use a **** ring...or a zip tie...or a rubber band...
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Thankyou to those who offered me good advice it is much appreciated, those who are actin like fassies well u know who you are, i'd just advise you not to waste ur time replying to anyones problems cause ur advice is more like an insult to those who are trying to sort out their problems.
Oce again thankyou to the majority of you who have given me good advice... and as for rsk keep kiddin urself and makin stupid jokes... fassy hole!
Jaidee
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