Am I a ***** for being upset when my fiance watches porn?

[Junsui]

Hugo, what the hell are you talking about? Having sex 2 times a day can be excessive. People do have different sex drives, some greater than others. Wow, I don't even know what to type here. I think I know why women cried when having sex with you. This is not her fault that he enjoys masturbation and it's normal for him to. Also, I don't think he just started watching porn once they got together. I'm pretty sure he was probably watching it before they were together, so I don't see how it would give him ideas now on what to try in bed.

[Tone]

Hugo - don't quit your day job.

[vashti]

I think Hugo has been hired by the admin for comic relief as a holiday gift for the regulars. Thanks, loveadmin!!

[Junsui]

lol Vashti. I hope so.

[Rosebud]

My god... HUGO, I think you need to keep your comments to yourself. Through your posts I can see you getting flamed very badly if you continue to bash woman the way you are. As I pointed out in another thread you need to back off the "i know it all attitude" when it comes to woman. I'm still in shock after reading your posts and being well aware of your age!

[Hugo Pickle]

Junsui- As far as having sex 2 times a day everyday, yes that is excessive, but it is not insanely excessive and to someone who thinks that having sex 4 times a week is excessive it clearly got the message across it is not excessive to have sex 4 times a week. Anyone who thinks having sex 4 times a week is too much has a damn problem. Why didn’t you mention that to the poster? You didn’t mention at all that maybe she is the one with the problem. In fact, I think only one other person even said anything like “4 times is not excessive”.

The guy is jacking off in bed with her for crying out loud because she will not have sex with him. This is someone who she says she wants to marry. What a load of crap. Not one woman on here said to her, “maybe you should marry someone else because this is a serious problem that will usually end in divorce.” No, I am the only one who even mentioned that. I was hash with this poster because I want her to realize the truth that if she cares about this guy then she will figure out that he is not the one who is being excessive, she is. This is the only girl that he has been with and you all make it out like he has the problem, yeah right.

As for crying during sex, read the following taken from this web site:
[url]http://forums.obgyn.net/young-women/YOUNG-WOMEN.0108/0130.html[/url]

I am 19 years old and I have been dating a wonderful guy for almost 3 years. I have been having a problem for the last year. Almost every time we have sex it is so intense that i start crying. Sometimes it is alot and sometimes it is only a few tears. He has never done anything to hurt me or force me into anything. We have had sex before and everything was great. Also when he puts his fingers in me it is now very uncomfortable. It makes me cry when his fingers enter me and hurts. Sex doesn't hurt though. I don't know what is wrong with me. I have seen my obgyn since this started but didn't mention anything. My pap smear came back fine. Please tell me what is wrong with me. We haven't been able to do much foreplay because of this.

Also read what these places have to say:
[url]http://magazines.ivillage.com/redbook/experts/sex/qas/0,,284453_600940,00.html[/url]
[url]http://www.askmen.com/love/vanessa/20_love_secrets.html[/url]

Some women have no problem being vocal and voicing what they want you to do. They scream, dig their nails into your back (or the bed as the case may be), pull your hair, cry, and in extreme situations, they black out for a moment.

I didn’t say that all women cry during sex and I certainly didn’t say that everyone that I have been with cried during or after sex. I certainly didn’t ask your opinion about it, did I? Do you want to know why? Because I know that you don’t have the first damn clue about anything like that. You even posted that you have never even heard of crying during sex before. No duh, how many women have you been with (Obviously not many)? What the hell makes you think that I want your opinion about having sex with women. If I want to know about having sex with guy’s (which I don’t) then I’ll be sure to ask you all about it. I didn’t visit this forum to hear women in their tweens try to tell me what they think it is like to have sex with other women because I know that they don’t have the first damn clue about it.

You know how I know this? Because when I was your age I thought that women were the best source to go to for advice about having sex with women. I learned the hard way and through experience what I should have known all along. That being that women generally only know what sex is like with themselves. I always used to wonder why advice from women never seemed to work when being with other women. Oh yeah, some things did don’t get me wrong, little things like where to kiss and how to do this or that but not big things like when your fiancé cries during sex and she never did that before.

I know that I don’t know everything about sex and women, I never will, but it is you women who post things like “I know why women cry when having sex with you” that really gets to me. You and Rosebud and many other women your age love to post about questions guys have as if you have all this experience being with many women. Hell, you never even knew that some women cry during sex until I told you. And now you tell me that you also know why women cry with me when just moments ago you said you never even heard that before.

So if I want to know something like, “do you like it when a guy makes small circles with his tongue around your nipples during foreplay or during sex” then I’ll ask you about it since you’re a woman; but, if I want to know more holistic advice about having sex with women then I’ll ask another guy who has more or different experience than I. Besides, many women can’t even tell their own man how to please them. This is another post entirely.

For any guys reading this take it for what it is worth and think about it. How much do women really know about having sex with other women? The answer is not much, but they sure love to talk as if they know everything about it don’t they. They post on here like they know all there is to know about sex and women. This is hardly the truth at all. Mainly it is young women who like to talk about themselves and just assume that it relates to everyone else. So when an older guy like me (32) posts things on here that they don’t agree with they get upset and assume that I am some redneck who thinks he knows everything there is to know about women. No, if I thought I knew everything about women then I would not visit this forum to find things that I didn’t know. What they fail to understand is that what I post on here is from years of personal experience being with different women or what another close friend of mine has gone through being with many women as well.

[whaywardj]

Hugo, you are an ass.

LilMissy: Have you asked him about his behavior?

[Tone]

Hugo, you are an ass.

I agree, mostly because every post he makes is a frickin essay and so I think he is an ass for makin us read all that.

[misombra]

did you guys read that? can you give me a little recap please?

[chelsee]

ha ha. there are so many double standards to this. my bf got pissed off when he caught me watchin porn. he watches it all the time. so why can't i?
so the moral to this sory is, start watchin porn yourself and see what happens!

[whaywardj]

did you guys read that? can you give me a little recap please?

Cliff Notes: The guy is masturbating while she's asleep because of her. She has a problem putting out enough. Women "your age" don't know shit about having sex with a woman. He won't ask women about having sex with women. He'll ask a guy. He doesn't want your womanly opinions about having sex with women. He knows more than any of you because he's 32 and has had sex with lots of women. Or knows some guy who has.

There were one or two other idiocies, and sarcasm goes right over his head, but I think that about sums it up.

[misombra]

thanks hayward.

yeah i agree. you're wrong.

[vashti]

Not only is he wrong, he is also long-winded. I prefer the strong, silent type. Emphasis on silent.
:-)

[Junsui]

Ok, I didn't read your whole post Hugo. Short attention span and all, but I saw the link with the 19 year old and it sounds like she has emotional issues. And I'm not 12, but cute word, tweens.

[Jade Falcon]

If it upsets you, then you need to talk to him about it.
Otherwise its going to turn into resentment.

As far as inadequate goes...theres no such thing
if you are giving him all you honestly can. I think
its more of an issue of being insecure. Look there
for your answers.

Porn is harmless, but if it bothers you then you need
to tell him this, and decide what to do from there.