Sex Issue-- HELP pleaseee !!!

[simple]

When me and my current girlfriend first had sex, it was when we first started dating. Well, i dont know why but she orgasmed twice and i hadnt at all. I didnt mind, i knew she was done and proably couldnt handle anymore so i stopped. no worries. she thought there was a problem like she wasnt good enough. Well lets say it was, but it wasnt the case. When shes on top of me im telling you i feel nothing for some reason. I pretend i do, but always switch us around because im afraid ill lose my erection. It's weird because everytime shes on top, she orgasms.. then we gotta switch and i will. Sometimes though you're pressed for time, like when we were veiwing an apartment and all of the sudden shes on top of me and im taking off her pants. So heres the big problem --

at first i could last a long time, now it seems like im in there for 3 seconds and im done. a couple of times i've even noticed this. I cum, and i dont feel that i did... im pissed that i wasted it sorta lol... i wanna keep going for her especially, but for me too. We both hate using condoms, you cant feel anything and im sorry but im sorta small in the area (ill admit it) so shes gotta get everything she can (sorta embarrassing). Theres gotta be something, maybe getting better in bed? How would i do that? Lasting longer? Any Ideas? Is there anyway to get bigger or am i screwed for ever?

Thanks for the help in advance...

[squirrley]

Building up your tolerance...whether its more sex, or just masturbating and controlling it yourself. This is what I've read and or heard through other guys here. I'm sure some of them will chime in with their advice.

How old are you if you dont mind me asking???

[Necrid]

well squirrley is right, build your tolerance anyway you can.... I say masturbating bcuz you can do it as many times as you want but sex is always better

I also say focusing on a image before its too late, then when she's ready focus on her as much as possible then let the googyness fly in her

[simple]

im 18years old...

i've been with 18 different partners, this girl being my 18th and ive really never had this problem before. I dont know what the issue is, i mean maybe its because i really care about this girl? I find her very very very attractive? It's not even the feeling when i have sex with her, its the fact that i care so much about her... im really not sure but i know theres something up -- need some sorta suggestions

[Necrid]

aaaaaaaaaaahhhh ok, your getting bored of the same kinda sex over and over again

I suggest you use some "toys" in your sex but make sure to ask first!! always important that you ask

[simple]

i know its sorta pathedic. but with every girl... ive never done anything outside of missonary position...

im getting bored of it? really you think thats it?

i feel like i cant pleasure her because of my size, i feel OVERLY embarrassed after sex even though she loves me im still embarrassed... anything to do?

[squirrley]

try different positions! get her from behind, or when youre on top, take her leg and put it over your shoulder?

do her while she's on the table or the dresser so you can watch yourself or her. PUT SOME SPICE INTO IT!!!

Having several ok A LOT of partners at your age already, you need to try and figure out what it is you want with her. Maybe because you ACTAULLY care for her and are conscience of your size, could be the real issue, if you're getting it on and thinking at the same time youre not fulfilling her then yea you might have a problem. But she's not arguing about it, she loves ya for who you are. Ok, let her take your penis and rub her clit with it, it's like shes masterbating, but with your help, your dick! That will turn your ass on!

Just try different things with her...and RELAX, it isnt a contest on size, enjoy it yourself...

[Necrid]

well yeah Sim, if you just done the missonary everytime. Of course your going to get bored..... no one likes the same old same old (( only if its good ))

and don't be embarrassed man, its just you and her, if she wants to have sex with you it means that she just wants what you have and nothing else..... if she loves you the sex is great for her and nothing is more important than pleasing your love. Call me whipped if thats what you think.

anyways.....

toys, positions, you must try anything too spice your sex up abit, mind you sex is good either way with me (( ^_^ )) just think about it this way...

having sex with someone you love is the best feeling you came have, and the only thing you can do is just have fun with it, it don't matter with size or anything. She love you and loves you is all she's going to do....

if I helped good, if I confuse you sry I tried

[simple]

no you definetly helped and i appreciate it... its weird, shes a very attractive girl and dont forget this is a spawned highschool relationship... so at the time i was the popular kid who was seen as arrogant and conceited... got everything i wanted when i saw and talked to her it was definetly what i wanted but she was seen as an "outsider", or not part of the "cool crowd" so it was different for me to be with her, shes no freak shes just her self and shes a very pretty girl... I used to be in good shape, now im fat (239lbs 6 foot) so its weird for me, to think i should have a girl like her, all i want to do is please her and i hope i can -- thanks alot you did help... very good stuff - thanks

[Necrid]

I did.... kool

I mean.......... yeah I knew what was talking about all the time ^_^;;

but I'm glad I helped

[squirrley]

Necrid you just followed my lead! And you got the credit for that? What has this world come to? J/K

He'll find his way...

[Necrid]

yeah I know, you should get most of the credit....

I'm a follower who just clears things up

[squirrley]

oh that's right, I forget men tend to not see directions very clearly!! j/k

[Necrid]

indeed we don't, that why women are there to show us the way

[squirrley]

right there my friend! Behind every good man is the greater woman! haha

Why is that do you know? Why the hell is it that men in general not all, but most need direction? Not just in the how do you get to the restaraunt on third street, but seems like that in every day life?