frustrated

[ilikeyoumore]

Hello, I'm about 20 years old. I've had a few flings in the past, but that's about it for my history; I'm sort of shy. I'm a sir.

So here's what's going on. I met this girl about 2 months ago, and I had a fat crush on her, we started hanging out, and that's about it. I was ok with that, infact I was good with that. Here's why: all of my past flings seem to have ended because a couple months down the road I realized I didn't know the person well, so this time around I decided I'd make good friends with the girl before I was about to make any moves. So we'd been just chilling out, and things had been going well, until one day, something terrible happened. Literally, at the drop of a hat, I didn't feel it anymore. You all know what I'm talking about, the feeling you get when you have that little kiddie love. She is really cool, we have lots of similar interests, and I think she is pretty. I really really really want to like her, but I don't feel it, and I'm not going to lie to myself. It's very frustrating.

Also, she seems moderately shy too, which is bad, because it keeps us from exploring a lot of things I bet we'd really enjoy about each other. You know I just don't want to come up to her and be like this is what I feel about life and everything, but if things led there, I bet it'd be neat. Which brings me to another point. Do you think I'll start to like her more and more with time, as we get to know each other better, and that the the crush was just infatuation? Don't lie to me.

Last couple of remarks. The other day, as a sort of experiment, I decided to flirt with her pretty good, just to see if anything feelings would come about. It worked to some extent, but I still feel like I should feel something just when I'm talking to her.

Alright that's it, any input would be appreciated, thank you.

[Tone]

I don't really get what you're askin here, captain.

You want us to tell you "how to like someone?"

I mean, it's either there or it isn't. Isn't it common sense that the longer you hang out with her the greater the chance something will happen is? That the feelings might come.

Odd.

[Junsui]

You're odd.

[ilikeyoumore]

oh i know i know booo. At least I have math.

[Tone]

At least he has math, ladies and gentlemen.

[clynn]

I think that in any relationship sometimes you have particularly "on" days and sometimes you don't. That's just the way it goes.

Maybe it feels dull because you haven't pushed the relationship further. Sometimes that is a problem. The relationship needs to progress and at this point it is stuck in friendship mode? Maybe?

[ilikeyoumore]

IS TONE ANTI MATHEMATICS? im kidding, I thank everyone for their help.

[Prodigal]

Good point, clynn... I agree.

[Lloyd95]

Take it to the next level; sex.

[clynn]

I found the dress tonight.

Oh lord.

[Only-virgins]

Well its not infatuation. Infatuation wont let go that quick. It will not go on and off and then back on either. Maybe you just thought she was hot and thats it?

[misombra]

...you can't maaaaaaaaaaaake your heart feel something it wooooooooooooooon't...

[Lloyd95]

I found the dress tonight.

Oh lord.

Pics of said dress??

[clynn]

Pics of said dress??

Not yet. Will send when I do though.

It is somewhat conservative, but sweet and feminine. Black. Phewww. I'm relieved that's all I have to say.

[Lloyd95]

It is somewhat conservative, but sweet and feminine. Black. .

Wait, aren't you the slutty one from "post the number of partners" thread?

At least that's who Tone said you were.