Why women need to hear 'I Love You' but men dont want to say it?

[Junsui]

Yeah, I didn't think about those things.

[mhussain]

if a man loves you so much that you know he loves you , the sheould or should he not realise that the woman needs to hear it too?

at teh same time, if she knows he loves her, why the need?

ans = insecurity

Hussain

[fear_21]

i think when u get used to a partner u forget many things..not just saying "i love you". To say i love you is easy, showing realy what u feel is hard. Especialy after 3 years...i dont say to my gf i love you anymore, cause it sounds cheap and silly after all the time. I rather buy her a pressent, or show her my love in a poem or something she doesnt expect. Something it makes her happy. Thats the way u say "i love you" after a while. U say i love you when u start dating. Then the hard work starts, to keep the rel.chip fresh and tasty..

[Tone]

Yeah but if you really love someone, wouldn't something so easy as to let them know be a reasonable request? I don't get why he would make it such a big deal.

I understand actions speak a lot louder than words.. but if you know she likes to hear "I love you" before goin to bed, if you know that could bring a smile to her face, why not comply with such a simple request?

[Junsui]

I agree, Tone. If you really love someone, it's not a big deal to just tell them. Of course, I don't know this guy or how he is used to showing his feelings for someone.

[fear_21]

i dont say thats not alright, but as time passes i expect and cherish more than just "i love you" before u got o bed.

[Junsui]

I understand what you're saying fear. I've just never been that way in relationships. I do appreciate more than just saying I love you, but I don't think it's something that becomes too hard to do.

[TAVS]

I can't imagine not saying "I Love You" to someone when I loved them. Sure, you have to show it as well, but I value hearing and saying those words.

[Tone]

Yeah exactly... and the fact he makes a big deal out of something so easy and simple as that makes me wonder.

[fear_21]

your mother pulls trucks on eurosport, that's what makes me wonder.

[Tone]

Whoa, that's a good one, man.

[indigosoul]

if a man loves you so much that you know he loves you , the sheould or should he not realise that the woman needs to hear it too?

I agree ^. And yes to the others, Tone, etc. who say the same thing.

at teh same time, if she knows he loves her, why the need?

ans = insecurity

This almost sounds like you think insecurity is a problem. Is it? Why?

[Tone]

Everyone is insecure about something. It's natural.

I don't think it's a problem unless you allow it to become one.

[indigosoul]

Everyone is insecure about something. It's natural.

I don't think it's a problem unless you allow it to become one.

I like you Tone. And the way you think.

[Tone]

Wow! Really?

I honestly thought you didn't like me cause I play around too much

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