Its my gf's b-day..and she is not being cool

[carpflounder]

I just don't see her being any less responsible than he is for this situation. That's all.

Thank you for realizing that. Relationships are fifty-fifty..if the rest of you women want equal rights..then you just have to accept this.

I decided that I don't want screaming, crying and all the loud crap.

Lately, I have just been doing things like if she wants to have sex but she isn't ready for me to put it in.....then I will just abandon the situation and retreat to the bathroom to jerk off. At least my hand is ready.

Debunkt, you are too nice. Yes, there is such a thing. I know guys like you who walk with there heads down and take orders from their gfs..hey whatever floats your boat....but that is not my cup of tea.

Tone, I don't present myself in real life the way I do here. LF is about honesty..the real world is about wearing masks. People her probably envision me as being some white trash druggie, who lives in a trailer, and is stuck in a low end job. My clothes, house, cars, business are all square..its just my mind that is dirty.

If any of you knew me in person...you would be astonished to learn that I am carpflounder.

I think that I will just take it easy...blow her off..rather than blow up on her. Just ignore her... and not listen as much (if at all) that ought to make it go down the tubes.

[Junsui]

Whatever you want to do, I hope that works out for ya.

[Rosebud]

I don't understand Carp, you siad you siad you apologized and gave her a flower, if you don't want to stay with her then why did you apologize in the first place? And why be a dick to make her break up with you instead of just telling her you don't want to be with her anymore?

And I don't think Debunkt is too nice I think he just respects women and how they feel.

[Junsui]

I don't think Debunkt is too nice either.

[carpflounder]

I don't understand Carp, you siad you siad you apologized and gave her a flower, if you don't want to stay with her then why did you apologize in the first place? And why be a dick to make her break up with you instead of just telling her you don't want to be with her anymore?

I apologized because I felt sorry for what I did wrong. Even if we broke up I would still apologize. The reason for being a dick is that she is deeply attached to me....and she won't leave me....she can be a dick to me too, trust me. I wan't to make it uncomfortable to induce the break up.

And I don't think Debunkt is too nice I think he just respects women and how they feel.

In my mind you can respect someone without changing for them. You can listen to someone without agreeing with them. If you agree or change yourself just for your SO than your a bit of a ...ahem..doormat.

[Asip4u]

I don't think Debunkt is too nice either.

It's never good to be TOO nice, Jun.

[Junsui]

I agree Carp! You shouldn't change your morals/values for your SO and you don't have to agree on everything. Usually two people in a relationship have some common ground and that can cause them to agree on things more!

[Junsui]

It's never good to be TOO nice, Jun.

I know that, but I don't think Debunkt is.

[Rosebud]

To be honest Carp, you don't know how Debunkt was before he met his girlfriend so in his defense I don't think you can say he has changed for anyone, and I still don't agree but that's ok!

And I can't help but feel that your just not sure how to tell soemone it's over and your afraid of hurting her no matter what you say, which is why you want to make it hard for her to stay with you.

[Junsui]

Yeah, RB. It's taking the easier way out when you kind of force the other person to end it. Then you don't have to.

[carpflounder]

You all wish you could have a guy like Debunkt!

[Rosebud]

I just think he's a good guy, who knows how to treat someone!

[Junsui]

lol Oh Carp!

[carpflounder]

And I can't help but feel that your just not sure how to tell soemone it's over and your afraid of hurting her no matter what you say, which is why you want to make it hard for her to stay with you.

Exactly.





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[Rosebud]

So you do have a backbone????????