Originally Posted by
Bluevetteracer
Wayward Hayward is on the right track here, Confidence, in my understanding applies to your ability to deal with whatever situation you are in. Be it a traffic stop, tests, women, life, whatever. How you thread yourself for each of life's encounters.
Security is a self image idea, in my opinion. Security, or "self secure" is the image you have of yourself, or of which you feel others imagine you, or perceive you. Basically, what you think of yourself, and what you think, others think of you. Sadly, we tend to beat ourselves up, thus also imagining that others see us as we then see ourselves.
I think total security is knowing that not everyone has to like you, and that not every one will, but most of the people you encounter, or go through life with will. So, instead of trying to "fit in" or live afraid of what someone might think of you is really cheating yourself out of opportunity and experience.
This can be applied to many walks of life, but since we are focused on the interpersonal relationships with male/female, lets stick to that.
For me, I believe I am a nice person, funny, and allot of people, family, friends etc, love me (I know SHH/Hayward - hard to believe) : ) and that if one girl that I approach tells me to shove it, big deal, her loss. But being afraid of a stranger's opinion of me is not going to affect my life.