can guys and girls be just friends?

[Tone]

Tone is just making up shit..haha

ohshi... busted!

[Junsui]

I know right!

Junsui I didn't want you to see this side of me... I wanted you to always think of me as a kind-hearted spirit with big pecs, a smile on my face, and a shh! on my side. Forgive me...

lol don't worry I still think of you that way

[Tone]

Okay whew, I still picture everything you say with a cute southern accent and you batting your eyes at me.

[Junsui]

That's good because that's how I would talk to you.

[Asip4u]

lol don't worry I still think of you that way

I'm rude, selfish and no fun at all.

[Junsui]

I'm rude, selfish and no fun at all.

Sure, I definitely believe that.

[Asip4u]

Sure, I definitely believe that.

lol...Good, as long as we're clear on that.

[MVPlaya]

I met this girl through a mutual friend. We started hanging out by going to clubs and we might chill together on the weekend. We've talked almost everyday since we first hung out (about 3 months). She supposedly likes some other guy who is like 5 hours away and he might come up in our conversation, but she knows I don't like to talk about him. I try to tell her that he's playing with her because she asks me questions about the things that he says. She also knows that I like her. I want to be more than just friends with her, but I still want to be friends with her if nothing more. Should I just leave her alone altogether?

Per the thread title: yes, guys and girls can have a platonic relationship.

Per your post:

The girl is using you as an emotional tampon. You function as someone that makes her feel good about herself (you're attracted to her, compliment her, allow her to gently turn down your overtures) and you're someone she can talk to. If she feels insecure or needs information, she'll ask you, but she isn't necessarily attracted to you. I think you've been LJBF'd (Lets Just Be Friends). Of course, I could be wrong since I'm dealing with about a half-paragraph worth of information, but pretty much all the signs are there. I recommend being less eager to spend time with her. If she wants to hang out on Saturday tell her you're busy and find some other time, if she calls you for those long winded conversations don't give in and place a time constraint (I have to go in 15 minutes, I have a friend coming over in 20 minutes, I need to get ready in a moment, etc. etc. etc.). You have to make her earn the right to be hit on by you. Do this, and then suggest you guys go out sometime (don't make it sound like a date, make it sound like a fun opportunity for her to get to spend time with you). This can have a few results, either she becomes interested / begins displaying interest, or she withdraws and you guys start hanging out less. But either way, if you're interested, its better than what you have going on right now.

If you keep doing what you've always done, you'll keep getting what you've always gotten. Take a risk, you should always be willing to risk losing someone to get with them.

[jcwill]

thank you!

[NeoSeminole]

the honest to god truth is no... girls and guys cannot just be friends. I am assuming that both individuals are attractive and heterosexual. Usually it's the girl who wants to be friends while the guy secretely wants to be more than friends. Any guy who says otherwise is lying out of his a**. There is a difference between wanting to have sex with a person and acting out your desires.

[calmsavagebeast]

we men, well most of us these days, not me (but yes, we men) we have one thing on our mind, pussy. its a shame really, i'd say unless your lookin to get nailed by your friend, stay away from that. yipes. as i explained to my girlfriend, the reason i stay away from other girls is pure temptation. i know i love her, but still, its always there, and who knows, maybe you'll run into the miller light girl or something. Then there can be a negotiation.

[Junsui]

we men, well most of us these days, not me (but yes, we men) we have one thing on our mind, pussy. its a shame really, i'd say unless your lookin to get nailed by your friend, stay away from that. yipes. as i explained to my girlfriend, the reason i stay away from other girls is pure temptation. i know i love her, but still, its always there, and who knows, maybe you'll run into the miller light girl or something. Then there can be a negotiation.

That's a lovely thought.

[shh!]

the honest to god truth is no... girls and guys cannot just be friends. I am assuming that both individuals are attractive and heterosexual. Usually it's the girl who wants to be friends while the guy secretely wants to be more than friends. Any guy who says otherwise is lying out of his a**. There is a difference between wanting to have sex with a person and acting out your desires.

I agree with this post. Except between hetero/homosexual friends, there is always an element of sexual curiosity to contend with.