ANAL (questions for the ladies)

**jb5k1** · 03-09-05, 05:52 AM

Ok I've read that some of you have had anal sex and all that. My girlfriend and I watch porn and she always says it's so disgusting, yet if she see's someone get dp'd she goes 'Wow that'd probably feel AMAZING.' I find this funny and I think I could get her to try it.

What is the prep work involved. I'm not tryin to invade a fudge factory. I know fingers and stuff are the way to work up to it and alotta lube.

Also, how long does it take to stop hurting.. meaning a couple times or a couple minutes. I told her that it probably would hurt for the first few times.. if we did.

One last thing, lol. Is all anal play actually pleasurable or does it depend on the girl? I'm sure some people have seen some Jenna Haze porn and she seems to love it. She even said it's more of an intense orgasm.

Sooooo yea. Does it feel good and what are some pre-anal steps?

**Ellynn** · 03-09-05, 07:17 AM

Are you sure your gf wants to try it? Don't force her into something if she doesn't feel comfy. But if shes willing to experiment I say try it. There are alot of nerve endings around the anus....so if you lightly brush against it with your fingers or your dick....it should feel pleasureable for her.

First of all...IT WILL HURT EVERYTIME IF NOT DONE RIGHT. A girl has lots of muscles there...so its IMPORTANT to go slow each and EVERY time. It is also important that she relaxes...and almost relaxes so much that its like shes trying to take a sh*t. This will help.
EVen if you put your dick in just a little bit and stop....and let her adjust to the size of it.....and then slowly go in a little more it makes a big difference!

You have to use alot of Lube....makes it much easier to get in....and less resistance.

Once you are in...its important to go very slow....until she has adjusted to you.....Don't move around too much....let her move up against you....and then she can kinda get the rhythmn going. Also reach around and rub her clit....or have her rub her clit. THis also helps to enhance things.

I have done this a few times....and the experiences were good. I wouldn't say the orgasm is more intense...but its definately a different feeling. IF the girl is in pain or yells stop.....its important to stop....and also important to carefully pull out.

**BlackRose** · 03-09-05, 08:53 AM

Originally Posted by jb5k1

Ok I've read that some of you have had anal sex and all that. My girlfriend and I watch porn and she always says it's so disgusting, yet if she see's someone get dp'd she goes 'Wow that'd probably feel AMAZING.' I find this funny and I think I could get her to try it.

What is the prep work involved. I'm not tryin to invade a fudge factory. I know fingers and stuff are the way to work up to it and alotta lube.

Also, how long does it take to stop hurting.. meaning a couple times or a couple minutes. I told her that it probably would hurt for the first few times.. if we did.

One last thing, lol. Is all anal play actually pleasurable or does it depend on the girl? I'm sure some people have seen some Jenna Haze porn and she seems to love it. She even said it's more of an intense orgasm.

Sooooo yea. Does it feel good and what are some pre-anal steps?

I personally have tried it and it sucked. Then again, the person I did it with was a moron and had no idea what he was doing. That's besides the point though.
Sounds to me like your girlfriend doesn't know what she wants. I say just ask her if she'd be willing to try. Like I tell people all the time, if you aren't comfortable talking about it then you shouldn't be doing it. So talk to her.
The pain factor varies from woman to woman. What feels good to one woman might not to another so you just have to try and see. If she tries it and hates it, respect her decision. Don't try to pressure her into doing it again if it's no fun for her. It will create animosity between you two because she will think you are being selfish. It's true too. If she is getting no pleasure from it, then why would she want to do it? She wouldn't. Make it a pleasurable experience for her. Try getting her in doggy position with some pillows under her to get her comfy. Use a lot of lube and prep her with fingers for sure. That helps a lot. Once you are inside, go slow. Also, move your hand around in front of her and play with her a little. Rub her breasts and belly, then her clit and such. Please her while you move inside of her. If you keep her pleasured, she might just forget about the bit of pain.
It will probably hurt the first few times and tell her this. Tell her it takes time but let her know it is completely up to her what you do and how many times you try before you give up on it all together. Let her be an active participant in the decision making.
As for your comment on the porn star, never watch porn and think it is some how real in any way. It's not. It scripted. She is paid to make it look good. She is numb to it. Trust me. She doesn't enjoy it. It's acting. So never make the mistake of thinking women in porn films are in any way being real.
Hope I could help.

**Ellynn** · 03-09-05, 09:05 AM

I don't think it feels bad for all women(porn stars included) but I do believe that they do ALOT of acting and if someone is getting paid to really look like shes enjoying....then yeah it probably makes it easier to pretend.

I myself enjoyed it with the one guy I tried it with. It was because HE made it enjoyable. Just don't assume you can just start pounding the girl like in the porn films. They (like blackrose said) are probably VERY used to it and have done it soooo much that its no big deal to them. They do become numb to it. But honestly the 7 times I have done it.....it hurt at first each time a little bit.....but he went slow....and took his time with making sure I was comfortable. That made a BIG difference. We tried spooning a few times and tried it doggy a few times. Both are pretty good..... Definately make sure to rub her all over....and then focus on the clit. This helps ease any discomfort.....and overrides any pain there is in the beginning......and then the little pain there was in the beginning becomes somewhat pleasurable.

**BlackRose** · 03-09-05, 09:08 AM

Originally Posted by Ellynn

Definately make sure to rub her all over....and then focus on the clit. This helps ease any discomfort.....and overrides any pain there is in the beginning......and then the little pain there was in the beginning becomes somewhat pleasurable.

Precisely...

**jb5k1** · 03-09-05, 11:52 AM

Don't worry. I took this girls virginity and I talked her through the whole think. I don't ever force her to do anything either, it's all up to her. I tell her to do what she wants not what I want.

Thanks for the advice.

**BlackRose** · 03-09-05, 12:20 PM

Originally Posted by jb5k1

Don't worry. I took this girls virginity and I talked her through the whole think. I don't ever force her to do anything either, it's all up to her. I tell her to do what she wants not what I want.

Thanks for the advice.

Sounds good to me. Sounds like you care about each other a lot. That is good. Just remember... Communication is key but you seem to know that already.

Good for you. Wish all men were like that. lol

**Ellynn** · 03-09-05, 12:37 PM

Yeah communication is very important.

My first time with anal was good....but I was never asked to do it. Or the guy never hinted...with words..... He just starting doing stuff and lucikly I was into it and then it happened. But a little warning ......or even asking would have been nice.

Good thing it was a good experience or I would have been pissed.

**BlackRose** · 03-09-05, 12:39 PM

Damn Ellynn. That must have sucked. I would have been pretty mad if I wasn't warned prior. Hmmm.. Then again, it didn't hurt so that is good.

You're lucky your first time with that was a hell of a lot better then mine. Oi.

**Ellynn** · 03-09-05, 12:41 PM

Originally Posted by BlackRose

Damn Ellynn. That must have sucked. I would have been pretty mad if I wasn't warned prior. Hmmm.. Then again, it didn't hurt so that is good.

You're lucky your first time with that was a hell of a lot better then mine. Oi.

I mean obviously he was doing stuff so I kinda knew where things were headed and I didn't stop him......and Im sure I could have. But we never actually had an actual conversation about how I felt about the whole thing. So yeah I was kinda mad....but then again at least it was good.

**BlackRose** · 03-09-05, 12:44 PM

Sometimes talking about it kills the fun but still. At least there was SOME warning.

**Ellynn** · 03-09-05, 12:55 PM

True..but it was also the same day I lost my virginity to him.....sigh. Its like he felt he should take both at once......

**BlackRose** · 03-09-05, 01:02 PM

Originally Posted by Ellynn

True..but it was also the same day I lost my virginity to him.....sigh. Its like he felt he should take both at once......

Ohhh man... That makes a BIG difference. What a jerk. lol He should have asked if you were ok enough to handle that. Oi. Sorry to hear that hon.

**Ellynn** · 03-09-05, 01:14 PM

Originally Posted by BlackRose

Ohhh man... That makes a BIG difference. What a jerk. lol He should have asked if you were ok enough to handle that. Oi. Sorry to hear that hon.

Thanx..but now I look back and Im like oh well. Hes married now and has a kid. Moved on....so now hes someone else's problem. Funny thing is he was trying to get with me when his wife was pregnant(before they were married).......if she only knew. But let her find out.....or maybe he changed....who knows.

**jb5k1** · 03-09-05, 01:42 PM

Ok, so isn't it dirty or what. I dunno what to think about the sanitary part of it. No one ever covered that part of the question I first asked lol

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