What happens to love?

[Ellynn]

Good question....

I have a friend who dated and fell in love with this guy in high school. Well they got married....had 3 kids.....got a house. Everything seemed picture perfect for 7 yrs.....even up to a few months ago. Well she RSVP's to my other friends wedding and tell her that shes gonna be bringing her bf and NOT her husband. I was shocked to hear this. Her and her husband are in the process of a divorce. She seems to be perfectly fine with this. SHe doesn't seem one bit upset. I think IM more upset then anyone else!! Really sad........ She says she hasn't been happy for awhile and she met someone else and now shes dating him......and she wants out of her marriage.

I guess sometimes people just fall out of love.......or just change....or give up.....or find something that makes them happier......who knows.... All I know is she was the last person I expected to get divorced. They seemed so happy even up until like 4 months ago.

[fear_21]

Thats a total ***** for me. She should go to hell...*****

[Ellynn]

Thats a total ***** for me. She should go to hell...*****

Yeah I was kinda upset with her when I heard this.....but then again I was not in her shoes the last 7 years......and after thinking a long time about it.....I really have no right to judge unless I was in the relationship. I don't agree that she is dating someone while in the process of divorce(especially with 3 small children to think about)....but thats her choice. She is still a friend of mine....and so is her husband. I feel awful for whatever it was that drove them apart....but I still care about both of them....and want them to be happy.

I guess it saddens me most because I was always envious of her. He is very good looking and has a really good personality.. and their children are adorable. I guess even though things appear to be perfect....usually its a different story behind closed doors.

[fear_21]

there was something wrong in their relat. A normal woman would never leave someone, where all is fine. I dont know how girls feel, if my girl leaves me now, im done for 1 week. Women just dont feel so strong or what?

[lilwing89]

i hear all these nice people telling us what love is all about...you just cant explain it. its like trying to explain an orgasm; you just cant.

the love is still there my friend, its just tricking you. your falling for other girls that seem better than the specific one you have been talking about. you know their not!!!!! so start thinking about all the good things in the relationship and try not to think about bad things like fights and arguments and the breakup. keep thinking about her. even if she has a boyfriend dont stop because boyfriends dont last forever! you will have her again if you can do the work...remember you have control over your love for others.

you can get her back

[fear_21]

keep thinking about her. even if she has a boyfriend dont stop because boyfriends dont last forever! you will have her again if you can do the work...remember you have control over your love for others.

I would never try to get her back after a breakup...im not a looser, there are lots of woman out there. I never break up, unless shes cheating..not because of fights or donowhat...when shes cheating, i say goodbye girl.