I'm sure these are probably quite common issues that you have all seen. However, any input I can get is much appreciated.
My boyfriend and I have been dating a bit over 5 months. It's a short amount of time, but beats my longest relationship by at least 3 months. It comes as no surprise from him, because his longest was 3 years. Granted, that was in high school, but he is no stranger to long term relationships.
He is the type that thinks that being in love this young{I am 18 and he's 20} is completely out of the question. He believes that he won't ever feel that until he's way older, basically old enough for marriage. And will probably marry the first girl he truly believes he loves. On the other hand, I believe that 5 months is a long enough time to at least know if you're capable of loving a person. I'm not completely sure if I'm in love with him, but I know that I can be. It may seem that I'm just sitting around, waiting for him to decide if he can love me or not, but I guess really that's how it is.
We have had huge amounts of fights. We talk online daily, and he's so used to his ex girlfriends being complete bitches to him, so he just assumes he knows my tone of voice when we talk. We've had half a dozen 'break up' talks, too, which always ends in him threatening it, and me doing whatever it is he wants me to do so that he won't dump me.
I know he's unhappy with our relationship. I know that we both have a lot of issues we need to work on, but if we can go through so many painful things together, why is it that neither of us will just let go? We are very strong individuals.
He has a ton of demands for me, that basically if I can't meet, he can't be with me. I understand almost all of them, I do, but he still feels as though he can snap at any time.
When is enough enough? Is there a real reason why we're still hanging onto this, or are we truly just too scared to change anything?